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#1519442 - 07/15/08 04:37 PM SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont.....
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Thread locked again.

Please keep responding if physical abuse was a part of your MLC.....
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Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11


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#1519487 - 07/15/08 05:03 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: TRUSTING]
Cinderellaman Offline
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Registered: 12/12/06
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Nope no physical abuse. But H is very very good with words.... he twists and twists till his is the side you choose to see it from. After all, 'it would be silly to see it any other way'...' (note the sarcasm...)

Also, making love became a bit more 'intense' ....
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#1519494 - 07/15/08 05:06 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: Cinderellaman]
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Registered: 05/01/06
Posts: 3848
Loc: TEXAS, USA
My H would bite me during lovemaking and he eventually stopped that. He did shove me once but I had thrown my 4" heels at him and hit him in the chest so we were both engaged there...not that it was right for either of us but I was so angry at the time.

that was about it...

V
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Aug '06: H moved out
July '08: H had a kid with the OW
May 12 '09: emancipation day

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#1519626 - 07/15/08 06:28 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: Valentine]
forward Offline
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Registered: 11/07/06
Posts: 4046
He threw things, but not at me.

He pushed me during one fight.
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M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
X has major medical issues
New Woman - died.
Remarried to new guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D


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#1519646 - 07/15/08 06:49 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: forward]
cagzmom Offline
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Registered: 08/21/07
Posts: 1666
Loc: NC
no abuse towards me...but ANGER oh my. Like never before. COMPLETE opposite of who he was.

you seem like your doing great!!!
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M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06
Moved out 3/12/07
D final 7/30/2008
finding myself again



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#1519717 - 07/15/08 07:38 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: cagzmom]
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Thanks Cagz,

I am doing o.k. It is month number 20. It gets easier and easier. The behaviors just get so ridiculous that you eventually go, "I don't want a part of that"....
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Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11


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#1519736 - 07/15/08 07:50 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: TRUSTING]
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Registered: 12/28/05
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Loc: England
Quote:
The behaviors just get so ridiculous that you eventually go, "I don't want a part of that"....


I think I arrived there today
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Me 43
XH 45
M 2.7.88
Divorce 7.10.09
Kids D20,S17 & D15

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#1519757 - 07/15/08 08:00 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: ACJ]
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Registered: 12/11/07
Posts: 1843
Loc: The Great State of Confusion
Yes, if you can detatch from it all emotionally and become an observer it is actually quite entertaining.

I never wanted a boring life anyway.

And this sho ain't been boring! (pardon my coloquial dialect)
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Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12
Bomb and OM 12/15/06
Separated 01/02/07
Divorced 05/13/08
X married OM(OMH) 08/2009
Married 06/09/13

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#1519779 - 07/15/08 08:12 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: sleeper]
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Registered: 05/26/08
Posts: 2591
Loc: Indianapolis
No physical abuse, but verbal abuse and manipulation. He had never called me names before the MLC. Lots of projection, trying to "gaslight" me and make me feel and appear emotionally unstable--by pushing and pushing and pushing those buttons that he knows are the most painful ones. Also by denying events and behaviors as if I had imagined them. His profession makes him able to be either very understanding or--using the same information--very cruel.
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M54
H47
D14
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09

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#1520227 - 07/15/08 11:25 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: hoosiermama]
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Depression sign #19

ML'ERS CAN EXPERIENCE SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION

Hormonal changes cause the physical symptoms of menopause in woman (irregular periods, decreased fertility, etc...). Hormonal changes cause the physical symptoms of andropause in men (decrease bone density, hair loss, etc...). Hormonal changes in both men and woman can cause emotional problems such as depression.

Most people know that woman go through menopause. Men can go through what is called andropause - a male menopause so to speak. Andropause is characterized by a loss of testosterone. This effects some men more than others. Woman experience a loss of estrogen. This effects some woman more than others. Both males and females experience similar symtoms during this time, irritability, loss of libido in women and erection problems in men, sleep disturbances, mood swings, and depression. Mid life crisis involves ones hormonal, psychological, interpersonal, social, sexual and spirtual components.
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Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11


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