That might be okay for some but I allowed God to take that control back because when I had taken things in my own hands, it went from bad to worse.
This will work out in God's timing NOT mine.
I accept that and really, things are okay between H and I. He has to choose when he is ready to come back fully committed.
I think you are doing well with letting God take control. It seems that you learned how to do that from experience. ANd yes, I too have to keep reminding myself that my H will return in God's timing. At least things are good between your H and you now, all that affection and ILYs. I wish my H would be that way with me now.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
SF - I hope you weren't offended by what I had to say. Truly, your patience amazes me. I am trying to understand how long is just too long.
How long do you plan to let this go on? That's what my biggest question is. How do you keep faith that H is going to come back some day and not just playing with you?
I understand the God's timing is not our own and we can not ever know when or if He is going to turn things. I watch ripple effect of the trauma my H is causing in our lives and I am powerless to do anything about it. God's love is here for me and my family but God does not expect us to be sitting in wait forever. We are supposed to follow his direction and act on it. If you never act, never DO anything, you are stagnant - not just still.
That's why I'm trying to understand where in your struggle you found any reason to continue. What was it?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
First let me say that how you handle your own individual situation is entirely up to you and between you and God.
You know your spouse better than anyone here and you know what he was like before he was taken captive by the enemy.
Who says some do nothing? Some of us who are standing pray, rely on faith, have an inner-peace as a result and also, when one allows God to fully control the situation, there is less conflict internally because God promises that He answers prayer. It is all about faith. When people take matters into their own hands, there is more turmoil and conflict.
In I Corinthians 7:10-11 it talks about how a wife should not depart from her husband and if she does, she is not to remarry. It also says a husband is not to divorce his wife.
The reason I continue with my stand is because I know what God has promised me and I know what my husband says to me. Sure, we have our ups and downs but he will be back when he is ready and in God's timing.
I know my husband better than anyone here and he is coming back.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
You will get there. It takes lots of time. It is not something that just happened. It is a gradual process.
Hang in there!!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
The reason I continue with my stand is because I know what God has promised me and I know what my husband says to me. Sure, we have our ups and downs but he will be back when he is ready and in God's timing.
I know my husband better than anyone here and he is coming back.
I agree that this is between each LBS and God. Keep up the good work and sticking to your conviction and God's promise to you.
I have faith that God will bring me and my son through this. No doubt about that. I just know my H and when he decides he's moving on, he's moving on. I think I'm just having a hard time reconciling that to myself.
The bible also provides two reasons that divorce is permitted by God. 1 Corinthians 7:15 - But if the husband or wife who isn't a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you to live in peace. My H has that one covered. Also, in Matthew 5:32 and in Matthew 19:7-8 that divorce was not what God had originally intended however if the spouse commits adultery then divorce is permitted (loose translation). I only put this here so that others may know that even if their M's come to divorce that in the eyes of God they are fully within their biblical rights if their sitch fits one of these passages. I would hate for anyone to think that God would punish someone for a D under these circumstances. These reasons do not mean you must D, only that you are permitted.
I'm really happy that you are able to maintain your faith through all of the crud. You are so strong and resilient. God will surely smile on you SF.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Hope you had a good day!