1. Training the dog is easier. 2. I probably emphasize what he does wrong more. I'm working on that. 3. I try to compliment all the time, but right now he is not speaking to me. 4. I don't hold a grudge at all...usually. 5. Smack him in the head with a newspaper. Kidding...I try again. And again. And again. Yes I know nag...I am working on that as well!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I agree that training the dog is easier, but if I get mad at my husband he does not typically pee on the floor.
1. Right now he would probably say the things he does wrong--of course he is living in the Land of Confusion, where marriages are re-written to fit the WAS's perception of reality. Before the bomb, he would have said the things he does right. He used to tell everyone how I am his biggest cheerleader in life.
2. Words of affirmation for a job well done, a hug and a kiss to let him know he is appreciated, spending time alone with each other. Right now, though, I am lucky to be able to give him the words of affirmation. But, when he finally comes home and we start working on recommitment, WATCH OUT! He will not know what hit him in the positive strokes department!
3. I compliment him every chance I get, but unfortunately that is not as often as I would like to do it.
4. He would say it depended on the situation as to whether or not I hold a grudge. I am becoming more and more patient and understanding, though, so I have made a lot of progress in this area.
5. I either nag about it or get mad and do it myself--both of which would infuriate him, as it showed a lack of faith in him getting it done.
SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I agree that training the dog is easier, but if I get mad at my husband he does not typically pee on the floor. lol!
1. Right now he would probably say the things he does wrong.....He used to tell everyone how I am his biggest cheerleader in life. what has changed?
4. He would say it depended on the situation as to whether or not I hold a grudge. I am becoming more and more patient and understanding, though, so I have made a lot of progress in this area. that's a GOOD thing!
5. I either nag about it or get mad and do it myself--both of which would infuriate him, as it showed a lack of faith in him getting it done. . what can you try differently? how about breaking up the steps and the rewards -- (ch 6)
SMW
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
