Partner left after 9 years - are we dating now?

[AliSuddenly]

Yes, you are right Michelle, of course and well put! I guess you have reminded me of what I thought about it for months, and why I was able to be so forgiving and compassionate and continue to not push or pressurise, because I do feel that he couldnt help it.

Its still his bl**dy fault though !! :-) Only kidding.

Ohh, wonder if he will stay the night tommorow??? Lets run a book on it, I reckon the odds are long (is that right?), I dont reckon he will stay over..

[Virtually_Handsome]

I don't know Ali, he invited himself over! I ain't betting in this one! But I think Mr. Wonka should stay put....

(((((Ali)))))


NO EXPECTATIONS!

[MichelleLT]

Its still his bl**dy fault though !! :-) Only kidding.

I feel you on that one!

Hmmmm, I'm gonna go with no. He's still moving pretty slow, although he is picking up momentum lately lol. Hmmm, I may have to rethink that bet!

[AliSuddenly]

Yes, he's like a flipping steam locomotive. Finally picks up a head of steam but still doesnt get above 8 mph.

I may have to wheel out the "best pants" just in case though (thats underwear for all your non-english people)

[AliSuddenly]

MY BOYFRIEND

Slow and steady as she blows

Yes, I feel the frustration of that car that cant take it anymore and nearly crashes into the on coming traffic...

[W2G]

Hey Ali,

You asked me a while back if I was getting any action from my H.. and the answer is no. So I came right out and asked him if he just didn't feel that way about me right now and he said no... that he is attracted to me... and that when I initiate he has no problem getting into it.. but that he feels unable to initiate any sexual intimacy due to the situation we are in and because he's hurt me. He said he thinks he feels he doesn't deserve me after everything that's been done and where we are currently. Do you think it's possible that your BF may have similar feelings?

Glad the essay is behind you.

Thanks for the heads up about the new moon. We can all use powerful wishes now and again.

Big hugs,
W2G

[AliSuddenly]

Wow, really !!??? Thats amazing W2G! I meant to check your thread earlier but hadnt yet, thats amazing, seriously. You're so brave to ask and what a fantastic answer!!

I think then, that you could be completely right. The way he held me in his arms Saturday night, like I said, the love must be there and you dont hold your sister that way! But, its like he darent make a move on me. He alluded that this is becuase he has hurt me so much, he wants to be like 150% sure I think, before he tries it on, he has alot of integrity (like being respectful to me when we were briefly in that lap dancing club). Thank you for posting that. I was smiling to myself then becuase I made myself laugh (see above! Ok, maybe I am a little eccentric with my humour) but now I am smiling becuase I think you could be right.

Ok, its defo my bedtime now !!!

Ali xxx

[Virtually_Handsome]

Wouldn't this be more suitable?

Big Boy

[AliSuddenly]

Oh no Jeff, WAAAAY too speedy, why that train is practically a blur, its moving so fast.

I'm talking a thing so slow that its following in the slipstream of snails.

[Virtually_Handsome]

But darn, it is beautiful!