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Because we had nice emails and texts today, the usual is for him to try to get me mad or upset so he does not have to think about what a mistake he made.

I am prepared for it.

Such a lost soul...


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There does seem to be some sort of wierd pattern doesn't there.

Mine? He has recoiled into silence. Probably because the papers were sent to me and he has done all he said he wouldn't.

Agreed- lost soul.


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Such guilt your H must have right now for his huge betrayal of you and your family...


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dont know anymore t- i really dont. dont you wonder sometimes about your xh? do they have guilt? do you think so??

my stbx has lied and manipulated so much. i just dont think he even knows truth or respect or will face guilt..he is consumed with himself. and now bimbo is there to support him doing so.


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Trusting this seems like a good step for your h. Continue to encourage and be supportive and appreciative of your h and see what the future brings.

It can start with you. Be kind and be a good friend. Your h will remember that and be drawn to that.

Excited to hear if this pattern continues.


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I think they feel guilt
but it isnt enough pain to bring them around
Trusting: it will be interesting to see if your H backs off
Mine usually does after a nice interaction or a few
best to expect nothing
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All very quiet in my sitch. Ex has the kids.


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wow, it seems that it's 'X has the kids weekend'....same here ! xxx


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I miss my kids so much. I hate this


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weekends when they have them messes with me too. hate it!!

sorry trusting..it is hard. very!


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