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Re: LRT THOUGHTS [Re: Kinlovewithm] #1398467
03/24/08 05:24 AM
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As long as it takes. They need to come to you, not vice versa. Trust me, they will. Their ego always takes over.


Me: 47
Pet: Kind labrador, 12 years old. Best Friend anybody could have.

Divorce final 12/07/07
No Kids

It is no longer about the divorce or about her. It's all about how I live my life now.
Re: LRT THOUGHTS [Re: Teddy] #1722434
02/23/09 03:34 PM
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I have been doing this LTR but no contact is almost impossible do to my thinks still in the house and other things I have to do there. It had been weeks and she had made a few contacts on her own but seems to be just more action in leaving. I don't engage anything till she does, I know she is seeing people but is also having trouble there. I did try to do something that I know she wants taking the kids to church it did work she said yes. We couldn't go because of work but called me back to say she couldn't go and was being more talkative then before and asked if I was still on a dating service? I kept cool and she seemed to want to say more but I said I had to go. So I don't know if this is a backslide but maybe not, she text me over the next weekend at 1:00 in the morning to tell me she had won 4th place in a poker tournament and said hope your well.. I donít know why she would do this. I think she may have went with a date but not sure, why see would be so eager to tell me this when she got home. I resounded with just basic good feelings. The next day I had to contact her about stopping at the house and she was not quick to respond and didnít answer her phone just text but was really ok with it. I was in NC but her asking personal questions about what Iím up to about dating has me wondering. I know she really wanted to go to church but I donít know if I should try that again. Or go back to NC


Me 40
waw 39
Never formally M
Common law
SD 16
SS 13
Together 9 yrs
bomb 10/2/08
She started dating 11/08
Started P/A 01/09
Contiunes to call R over
Re: LRT THOUGHTS [Re: pauld2100] #1725081
02/27/09 01:21 AM
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I have been dim (text message once per day to check on D(1) ) for about a week. W's text message replies are becoming more wordy, she added a smiley face onto the one today, and she initiated a text message this morning to ask me to pay for half a co-pay for D(1)'s bill. I didn't reply - but am going to write her a check.


"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Re: LRT THOUGHTS [Re: DCBHM] #1733199
03/13/09 05:53 PM
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I've had a mutual friend of ours tell both me and my W to essentially go dark. If she is holding back also, what does this do to the going dark technique? Will it still be effective?

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Re: LRT THOUGHTS [Re: D Money] #1733344
03/13/09 09:36 PM
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What does LRT mean?
Thanks,
BPretty

Re: LRT THOUGHTS [Re: bip42] #1804076
07/19/09 02:46 AM
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Last resort technique? I'm wondering, too.


Me: 51
WAW: 43
S: 10, 7
M: 12 years
bomb dropped 6/4/09
W filing for divorce asap
in GA, 31 days is all it takes- that SUCKS!
Re: LRT THOUGHTS [Re: lovemyprincess] #1812537
08/03/09 05:59 PM
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The Last Resort Technique is describes in Michelle's books Divorce Busting, and The Divorce Remedy.

As it sounds, it's a last resort used when your spouse has declared they are "done" and have one foot out the door towards seperation or divorce.

Have either of you read the books yet?

Last edited by Wont give up; 08/03/09 06:00 PM.


Re: LRT THOUGHTS [Re: Teddy] #2059586
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Hi Teddy,

Not sure if you are still on this forum-I am curious that you wrote the WAS comes to the LBS after the split/separation/D, that their their ego "takes over".

Did anyone find this to be true?

Look for my sitch on "Coping everyday"

Thanks~and I hope life is going well for you~


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Re: LRT THOUGHTS [Re: Susan1Survivor] #2095014
10/25/10 03:03 PM
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Think it has just started to happen with my H. He seems shaky though. May be thinking of comming home, but affraid of what a mess he has made. My current thread is in "Affairs and Jealousy."

Re: LRT THOUGHTS [Re: hope for zen] #2293588
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I'm lost on doing LRT while she's still living in the house with me. She already feels like I don't want her in the house and she's working on moving out...but she wants the "old me" back.

So if she wants the "old me" which requires doing 180's from my current behavior and includes doing nice things for her, how do I do LRT? I get not saying ILY and not buying flowers, but does it just mean I act like I don't care if she leaves? Just keep being nice and helpful around the house and upbeat around her?


ďPeople are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.Ē Abraham Lincoln
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