Good days and not so good ones I tried taking a breather from posting here
It was becoming manic behaviour
I removed my wife's picture from my photos so when and if she rings or if I msg her it no longer shows Her face ...this is a small step but for me it is pretty huge I still need to stop being so codependent and ri in detaching
I realise that this is not all about me
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.
I removed my wife's picture from my photos so when and if she rings or if I msg her it no longer shows Her face ...this is a small step but for me it is pretty huge
You have taken as step in protecting your feelings. That is good, Ghost.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
I removed my wife's picture from my photos so when and if she rings or if I msg her it no longer shows Her face ...this is a small step but for me it is pretty huge
Ghost, I did this too and it helped tremendously. I used to get a knot in my stomach on the rare ocassion that my WW called me. I guess I was just conditioned in such a way that when she called, more pain was coming my way.
Not only did I remove her picture, but I was changed her name to "Detach! You Got This!!" just to remind me before every phone call. I suggest you do something similar.
You're on the right track of protecting yourself.
Me: 34 W: 30 Together: 11 years Married: 4 years BD: 4/2014 A Discovered: 5/2014 WW Filed: 7/2014 Separated: 8/2014 Divorced: 10/2015
I removed my wife's picture from my photos so when and if she rings or if I msg her it no longer shows Her face ...this is a small step but for me it is pretty huge
Ghost, I did this too and it helped tremendously. I used to get a knot in my stomach on the rare ocassion that my WW called me. I guess I was just conditioned in such a way that when she called, more pain was coming my way.
Not only did I remove her picture, but I was changed her name to "Detach! You Got This!!" just to remind me before every phone call. I suggest you do something similar.
You're on the right track of protecting yourself.
I love this, plus I added an appropriate ring tone at one stage nuki nuki by gummy bear.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
NDY I hear what your saying however I have some assets that my W says she is not interested in so I would almost certainly just say you keep this money and I will keep mine if this works then great huddy thank you I know where there is love there is hope
I think theres a rule about believing what your W says.......
