This WILL be the year I live the life I imagined. It will include:
Lots of fun with my kids; building memories and raising them to be people of generosity and integrity A simpler household with lots of happiness, less stress, and more friends laughing with me More experimenting More writing with less pressure to churn out a masterpiece (writing for myself, not publication) Travel, alone and with the kids and friends Professional achievement (licensing; promotion) More exercise and yoga More regular church attendance, soul-feeding Broaden my social circle
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
GREAT list, Maybell. I love, love, love it! Good luck to you on all of them.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
When S8 was about to be born I was tested for Group B Strep and found positive. I had been negative for D11. I was telling H about it because I had to take a round of antibiotics. He got a funny look on his face and said "Is that an STD?" I said, "I don't know. Why?" And he said "Never mind." And I let it go because I was nine months pregnant, unemployed, with a toddler.
I feel so stupid.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Hi Paul, Bug and Mustard! Great to see you guys, too! I need to find your threads and get your updates!
Maybell, I love the list you wrote. Most of those are similar to what I have been doing and want to continue to do. Aside from exercise (which I go crazy without), the one that has been the most rewarding is spending more time with friends and broadening my circle of friends. You really just don't realize how many great people there are out there, and how different people add to your life in different ways.
About the Strep B. Don't feel stupid. That's a worthless emotion. The best you can do now is learn from it and make sure that in the future, you are not ignoring red flags. (I think I am the queen of ignoring red flags, so I am right there with you!)
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
Thank you, Melissa. I don't know if we've ever crossed paths before, but I like your vibe.
Taking my kids tomorrow to my old great church. Today was lovely. D11 and I rearranged the furniture AGAIN; boys played like boys; started putting Christmas stuff away; read three chapters of Harry Potter ("Where your treasure lies there your heart will be also") watched a movie, ate popcorn, and had a very nice dinner full of silliness and laughter at the kitchen table.
Did I mention that for our family New Year practice we are each writing a gratitude on a scrap of paper and keeping it in a large jar to be read at Thanksgiving? S6 lives the practice, D11 complains and is resistant (but complies, sort of) and S8 goes along.
I lead a nice family. I have a lot to be grateful for.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Can someone please explain to me how it is that I'm looking forward to being single and in a more manageable environment, that most of my memories of him are negative and lonely, and yet I'm feeling weepy and upset? I WANT to let go. I DON'T want this marriage back. And yet there are huge lumps in my throat and chest, I haven't eaten, and I'm struggling to push him out of my mind? What is my body telling me that I won't hear.
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! EXACTLY how I feel. Our D was final, XH ALREADY has a "new" gf (I suspect not quite as "new" as he claims), and I just feel all weepy and upset. I had FINALLY started sleeping well and then last night, it started again...waking around 2:00 and not being able to do anything but cry, shaking. I thought the D would at least bring closure, but not so much. Hang in there, Maybell...you are NOT alone.
X3 but I'm not weepy any more. We get it we have a tshirt. It's very much normal and a ok.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
