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What's a BFH? A baffled and frustrated husband?


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Big F'ing Hammer... in vernacular acronyms...

It is actually a fictitious company I made up for my line of DB tools...

But I do like your meaning, too. I can understand that.


“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter

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So date is being rescheduled until tomorrow, but W may be stuck out of town due to bridge closures in the area. Her texts lead me to be hopeful that she does want to see me. We'll see. I am leaving town for the long weekend. So maybe next week...


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So w text me today and we are rescheduling for tomorrow (later today from the point of view of the time stamp here)

Her: gonna try to be in (hometown) thurs night. (Boss) wants me in SF rest of week but fighting her on it. Bay bridge closure will screw commute for everyone & I don't really want to stay in city for the week. I'm tired of SF & just want to be home for a few days. Anyway... Thank for listening. I will let you know in the morn if I'm around.

Me (8:29 am): yeah ... City will suck starting tomorrow. Good luck.

Her (9:29 pm): be in town tomorrow

Her (10:51 pm): can I borrow your car this weekend? How about Sunday?

Me (11:11 pm): hey.. Just got home from movie. Look forward to seeing you tomorrow. . We'll have fun smile

Me (11:12 pm): I'm going to (vacation home) for the weekend. We'll have to do the car another time.

That brings me up to date. I need to mentally prepare for tomorrow.


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So we actually continued texting last night a bit and are now just finalizing where we will meet. So I am getting the opportunity to "date" my WAW. At least I am thinking about it that way. I am hoping that she isn't just looking for a friend.


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Manage your expectations.


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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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I did well last time (2 weeks ago). ..she wanted to see me again... And she is pursuing... I am. Hopeful but keeping expectations in check...


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It is such a fine line to not pursue, but to also not be in a "just friends" situation. Ugh....


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You are upbeat, you are happy. You open the door, pull out her chair, do not touch. Listen everytime she opens her mouth.

You are her friend...start there.

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I have too much time to think... Maybe the last time worked so well because everything happened so quickly. Right now w has not responded to my last message from last night suggesting a place to meet... She knows I am working from home and could meet whenever.... I used to try to appear more busy but that has not worked too well for me.... I half expect her to be too tired and cancel or something.... I know .. I need to settle down... Once I am with her I am sure I will be ok...


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