D papers missing... - 01/18/09 01:32 PM
Hi
I have enclosed my original post for ref. (Didn't know how to do this so hope it works)
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1614695
I have finally let go and detached. I had my last in person contact with H in Dec and it was good. We have been friendly and interacting well for a couple of months, mainly via mail but also in person. He is still seeing ow so I am not prepared to see him anymore unless that finishes.
I am coming up to having the finances sorted. I am buying my H out for the flat and that is all we have to do. I sent the D papers a few months ago because of several reasons... my solicitor said the financial agreement would not be valid until divorce was complete, my H was so adamant he wanted it and at the time I was sure I wanted it as he moved in with ow...
The problem is the papers have been "lost" either by the postal service or the court and now I am not sure about D. My H doesn't know this but his bull of a solicitor (as he calls her) has told him that they should have arrived by now and what is going on? Which he is now asking me. I have been ignoring this so far but not sure what to do.
I have let go but don't want to do the papers again as H has been behaving differently. He keeps contact open with me - making excuses to meet up, gets in touch with me via mail and in person and is friendly and making jokes etc. I know what he saw in ow - emotional support with his job which he was having a big problem with and ended up getting this from her - this led to I've fallen in love with her.... I have had sessions with a DB coach and she agrees that we interact well and she has not seen a couple be so civil/have respect for each other. I have GAL, 180's and validated him etc etc which he has noticed but I don't think I can do anymore now (and don't want to) unless he leaves ow.
Do I ignore his Q regarding D and continue the financial side of things and get on with GAL as I have been? Do I tell him the papers have been lost?
I have enclosed my original post for ref. (Didn't know how to do this so hope it works)
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1614695
I have finally let go and detached. I had my last in person contact with H in Dec and it was good. We have been friendly and interacting well for a couple of months, mainly via mail but also in person. He is still seeing ow so I am not prepared to see him anymore unless that finishes.
I am coming up to having the finances sorted. I am buying my H out for the flat and that is all we have to do. I sent the D papers a few months ago because of several reasons... my solicitor said the financial agreement would not be valid until divorce was complete, my H was so adamant he wanted it and at the time I was sure I wanted it as he moved in with ow...
The problem is the papers have been "lost" either by the postal service or the court and now I am not sure about D. My H doesn't know this but his bull of a solicitor (as he calls her) has told him that they should have arrived by now and what is going on? Which he is now asking me. I have been ignoring this so far but not sure what to do.
I have let go but don't want to do the papers again as H has been behaving differently. He keeps contact open with me - making excuses to meet up, gets in touch with me via mail and in person and is friendly and making jokes etc. I know what he saw in ow - emotional support with his job which he was having a big problem with and ended up getting this from her - this led to I've fallen in love with her.... I have had sessions with a DB coach and she agrees that we interact well and she has not seen a couple be so civil/have respect for each other. I have GAL, 180's and validated him etc etc which he has noticed but I don't think I can do anymore now (and don't want to) unless he leaves ow.
Do I ignore his Q regarding D and continue the financial side of things and get on with GAL as I have been? Do I tell him the papers have been lost?