(almost) Ten Years After the big D - 10/20/16 07:02 AM
My divorce was finalized 10 years ago in November. I thought I'd post and say hi to all the good folks out here.
Life is so much better now! I am very glad that the stress of not knowing what to expect day by day and the strain of fighting to save my marriage is over. It is very nice to know (with hindsight) that it actually couldn't have been saved and we are all a lot better now.
I don't miss my X at all. I keep conversations with him to an absolute minimum. Last fall, DD got married and X did walk her down the aisle. This was an event I had been dreading in the pre-BigD days. But it was the loveliest wedding ever! and DD and XH are close still, which is a good thing.
About 4 years after the D I got my current job. I am thriving in it and now make about 3 times what I did pre-D. My house will be paid off in about 5-6 years and then we can talk retirement! Woo-hoo!
Both kids are doing so well. DD working her dream job and married to her dream guy. Son is living in NYC (Manhattan) working at MOMA and living the life of a working artist.
I have been in a committed, exclusive relationship for the last 6 years. We are going through a rough patch and it remains to be seen what will happen next.
I remember so well the pain and desperation I was feeling when I first found this BB. I was on here constantly and posting sometimes several times a day. It was a real lifesaver! I formed some very deep and long lasting friendships on the board and I am so glad it is still here. Folks, all the general rules apply. Work on yourself. Detach.... drop the rope. Practice radical self-care ( Thanks Anne Lamott ) Cultivate meaningful relationships with folks other than your partner. Drink lots of water! :-)
best,
SG
Life is so much better now! I am very glad that the stress of not knowing what to expect day by day and the strain of fighting to save my marriage is over. It is very nice to know (with hindsight) that it actually couldn't have been saved and we are all a lot better now.
I don't miss my X at all. I keep conversations with him to an absolute minimum. Last fall, DD got married and X did walk her down the aisle. This was an event I had been dreading in the pre-BigD days. But it was the loveliest wedding ever! and DD and XH are close still, which is a good thing.
About 4 years after the D I got my current job. I am thriving in it and now make about 3 times what I did pre-D. My house will be paid off in about 5-6 years and then we can talk retirement! Woo-hoo!
Both kids are doing so well. DD working her dream job and married to her dream guy. Son is living in NYC (Manhattan) working at MOMA and living the life of a working artist.
I have been in a committed, exclusive relationship for the last 6 years. We are going through a rough patch and it remains to be seen what will happen next.
I remember so well the pain and desperation I was feeling when I first found this BB. I was on here constantly and posting sometimes several times a day. It was a real lifesaver! I formed some very deep and long lasting friendships on the board and I am so glad it is still here. Folks, all the general rules apply. Work on yourself. Detach.... drop the rope. Practice radical self-care ( Thanks Anne Lamott ) Cultivate meaningful relationships with folks other than your partner. Drink lots of water! :-)
best,
SG