Is this piecing?? Questions need answering! - 03/07/04 06:37 AM
Bit of background first...My wife and I are separated - she is seeing OM which started off EA then PA. Over the past month she has admitted to me that 'he is not the answer' - that I am the 'only one in her heart' and when her mother asked what was happening between us - she told me she replied that 'she is still seeing the OM' but knows it's 'going to end' and that WE are working on things and 'no longer taking each other for granted'.
Sooooo....I have not pressured her into coming back even though I've received these positive signs...and I want to scream WELL WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR THEN!!I am trying to act 'As As If'to a T although it hurts me like crazy. She was first attracted to me in the first place because I could make her laugh - so I always try to now leave her laughing...and at the end of these two last meetings she was much more feely touchy and gave me a longer than usual kiss on the lips. Should I consider this piecing?
Also - should I initiate more contact with her or leave the ball in her court in case she considers this 'pressuring' her as well as aking about the OM? And...sorry for all the questions....what is the danger of this becoming 'just' a friendship if I keep acting 'As As If'. Should I be acting more elusive and let her think I'm going out with other people or am I just losing patience?
Both times when our counsellor has suggested that her relationship was stronger with the OM and not me - she broke down in tears afterwards telling me OM meant nothing to her and she could never replace me (Alien speak?). Then when our counsellor suggested we split up our money - I gave her a cheque and she broke down - wanting me just to put some money into our joint account - she didn't even want to open her own!!In fact should I be taking a harder line approach insted of being 'Act As If' nice guy - seeing forcing things to a head with OM and our relationship makes her back down???
Sorry for rambling. All opinions welcome. Cheers Evan
Sooooo....I have not pressured her into coming back even though I've received these positive signs...and I want to scream WELL WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR THEN!!I am trying to act 'As As If'to a T although it hurts me like crazy. She was first attracted to me in the first place because I could make her laugh - so I always try to now leave her laughing...and at the end of these two last meetings she was much more feely touchy and gave me a longer than usual kiss on the lips. Should I consider this piecing?
Also - should I initiate more contact with her or leave the ball in her court in case she considers this 'pressuring' her as well as aking about the OM? And...sorry for all the questions....what is the danger of this becoming 'just' a friendship if I keep acting 'As As If'. Should I be acting more elusive and let her think I'm going out with other people or am I just losing patience?
Both times when our counsellor has suggested that her relationship was stronger with the OM and not me - she broke down in tears afterwards telling me OM meant nothing to her and she could never replace me (Alien speak?). Then when our counsellor suggested we split up our money - I gave her a cheque and she broke down - wanting me just to put some money into our joint account - she didn't even want to open her own!!In fact should I be taking a harder line approach insted of being 'Act As If' nice guy - seeing forcing things to a head with OM and our relationship makes her back down???
Sorry for rambling. All opinions welcome. Cheers Evan