feel like bomb dropped again - 10/20/03 11:12 PM
Well I thought H and I were going along real well then about a month or so ago I felt a shift in the wrong direction. He seemed to become distant and didn't have much interest in sex. I know he hasn't been happy in years M to me, but we really were recovering. I know I'm not the "woman of his dreams" anymore. I accept that. I have changed, we get along much much better than we did before bomb. Sometimes I think he thinks I'm not his type anymore, one example is he likes to hike, I started going with him last Summer but I can't keep up with him. he is also unhappy in his job, I know that isn't my fault but we all know that they tend to blame us for everything negative in their lives.
He's also not in love with me, that's a hard pill to swallow but I have only myself to blame for that. At least he doesn't tell me he loves me, his actions are quite different though.
I feel like right now that we are 2 lonely people in an unhappy marriage. Oh I'm happy and glad he is still here, but I can't help feeling he's just here because it's easier than the alternative.
I don't excite him. I'm old and I think he wants someone younger. But he also has a fear of being alone. I realize all of this and although it isn't ideal, I've tried to make our lives happier together. I feel like he is 'settling' and I'm settling too for a situation that isn't ideal but in my mind I still have him and I'll take it because he has my heart. Oh how much easier this would be if he didn't have my heart.
Lisa
He's also not in love with me, that's a hard pill to swallow but I have only myself to blame for that. At least he doesn't tell me he loves me, his actions are quite different though.
I feel like right now that we are 2 lonely people in an unhappy marriage. Oh I'm happy and glad he is still here, but I can't help feeling he's just here because it's easier than the alternative.
I don't excite him. I'm old and I think he wants someone younger. But he also has a fear of being alone. I realize all of this and although it isn't ideal, I've tried to make our lives happier together. I feel like he is 'settling' and I'm settling too for a situation that isn't ideal but in my mind I still have him and I'll take it because he has my heart. Oh how much easier this would be if he didn't have my heart.
Lisa