HELP! WAW reversed course, but now I'm WAH! - 02/28/16 11:48 AM
I think maybe this is the right forum. Not sure.
My wife cheated. Multiple online profiles. EA, PA, you name it. It was at the end of a marriage that had been on life support for years. I expended untold blood and treasure for 7 months working to save our marriage. We were on the brink of reconciliation when I discovered more online activity. That was the last straw. I told her I'm done. I want a divorce. I have not yet filed.
I went dark. I completely cut loose. Changed my hair, grew a beard, and yes, started looking outside for companionship. SHE IS AWARE OF THIS. For the whole 7 months I was trying, I was a choirboy. She continued her activity. I always resented the double standard. Now, I refuse to lie. I have claimed all the same rights that she claimed.
Like a moth to a flame WAW wife is now begging me to stay and work on the marriage. Our roles are fully reversed. I find myself in the grip of all the anger over her betrayals that I suppressed while I tried to save my marriage. I don't feel anything. I am capable of treating her in such a cold manner. Her tears and protestations enrage me."WHY? Where is this coming from?" As though the past 7 months of her cheating and lying never happened. WHERE WAS THIS WHEN I WAS STRUGGLING AND CRYING AND PRAYING TO GOD TO SAVE MY FAMILY?? And she is here now? After tearing me to pieces emotionally for months, she is suddenly ready to get in counseling right away. Wants me to call into work tomorrow.
I am finally able to let go and be free of this, and she is begging me to stay and work on the marriage "for the kids".
For the kids... I do want them to be happy.
But, I feel nothing. How do I pick up the rope when I do not care? Should I just take this opening and get the hell away from here???
Or, do I pick up the rope?
My wife cheated. Multiple online profiles. EA, PA, you name it. It was at the end of a marriage that had been on life support for years. I expended untold blood and treasure for 7 months working to save our marriage. We were on the brink of reconciliation when I discovered more online activity. That was the last straw. I told her I'm done. I want a divorce. I have not yet filed.
I went dark. I completely cut loose. Changed my hair, grew a beard, and yes, started looking outside for companionship. SHE IS AWARE OF THIS. For the whole 7 months I was trying, I was a choirboy. She continued her activity. I always resented the double standard. Now, I refuse to lie. I have claimed all the same rights that she claimed.
Like a moth to a flame WAW wife is now begging me to stay and work on the marriage. Our roles are fully reversed. I find myself in the grip of all the anger over her betrayals that I suppressed while I tried to save my marriage. I don't feel anything. I am capable of treating her in such a cold manner. Her tears and protestations enrage me."WHY? Where is this coming from?" As though the past 7 months of her cheating and lying never happened. WHERE WAS THIS WHEN I WAS STRUGGLING AND CRYING AND PRAYING TO GOD TO SAVE MY FAMILY?? And she is here now? After tearing me to pieces emotionally for months, she is suddenly ready to get in counseling right away. Wants me to call into work tomorrow.
I am finally able to let go and be free of this, and she is begging me to stay and work on the marriage "for the kids".
For the kids... I do want them to be happy.
But, I feel nothing. How do I pick up the rope when I do not care? Should I just take this opening and get the hell away from here???
Or, do I pick up the rope?