Get set divorce - 06/28/15 03:35 PM
Hi,
Long time since I have posted here (was going through a bad patch) and have had to change my details as had a lot of my accounts hacked.
Brief summary of sitch:
BD 2012 confused feelings, Moved out Nov 2012, son with special needs and step son. W left home and a whole host of debt behind. W upgraded her house to one that was twice the size of the family home (even though she is on benefits) and suspect she is living with OM.
Both agreed we wanted a straight forward D on basis of 2 year separation.
A lot has happened since I last posted. W e-mailed me in Nov 14 about divorce and stuff, also admitted she had been seeing OM since early 2013 and felt now was the time to be honest because she has respected my feelings by making sure OM is not around whilst I pick S up.
In e-mail mentions divorce and basically agrees to sign house over(no equity in the property), she won't apply for spousal maintenance but requested on-going financial support for special needs son whilst he still lives with her.
Conversations that followed were reasonable and I basically agreed with her proposals as they seemed fair given her new long term relationship status, the fact I am paying off all the marital debt and there being no equity in the house.
Fast forward and because I have been paying off debt against the house I was finally in a position to realistically transfer property over. After W announcement re OM also felt high time I got the divorce started.
Spoke to W a few weeks back that provided nothing has changed re our agreement then I will talk to solicitor to check if any problems from a legal perspective and then we would discuss again the following week re petitioning etc. I also made the mistake of mentioning the house that I could feasible transfer because there was now a small amount of equity in....big mistake.
So I speak to solicitor, get fixed price for what should have been a straight forward D (W stated she also wanted a straight forward D) on the grounds of 2 year separation. The following weekend when I pick S up W announces she has already filed. Receive the petition and whilst she ticks the 2 yea separation box as grounds for divorce she also decided to fill the additional information box with a whole load of grievances about how she felt I resented working to support the family, she gave up her life to raise our S etc etc. My solicitor was taken aback by this as in the rant W had forgotten to actually put the dates we were separated and a possibility a judge may reject it!
Agreed for solicitor to write to W with outline of what we had agreed financially with house etc. W receives letter and does a complete U-turn and is now out for everything (lump sum, spousal maintenance, on-going child support, equity in property etc etc). In her response to solicitor W also sends a length note of 'additional information' about how she left the M home with just £30 and more re-writing of history etc.
More a vent post than anything as I had actually thought there were some signs of improvement in W. Its just that I know for me personally I am done and wanted a line drawing under it. Now looks like this will drag on for ages.
She also hacked my FB account the other week (managed to trace)!
Losing the will fast!
To any out there (particularly Forever Young who I know has been out there a similar time to me) thanks for the support. I have changed my username for safety!
Thanks all
Long time since I have posted here (was going through a bad patch) and have had to change my details as had a lot of my accounts hacked.
Brief summary of sitch:
BD 2012 confused feelings, Moved out Nov 2012, son with special needs and step son. W left home and a whole host of debt behind. W upgraded her house to one that was twice the size of the family home (even though she is on benefits) and suspect she is living with OM.
Both agreed we wanted a straight forward D on basis of 2 year separation.
A lot has happened since I last posted. W e-mailed me in Nov 14 about divorce and stuff, also admitted she had been seeing OM since early 2013 and felt now was the time to be honest because she has respected my feelings by making sure OM is not around whilst I pick S up.
In e-mail mentions divorce and basically agrees to sign house over(no equity in the property), she won't apply for spousal maintenance but requested on-going financial support for special needs son whilst he still lives with her.
Conversations that followed were reasonable and I basically agreed with her proposals as they seemed fair given her new long term relationship status, the fact I am paying off all the marital debt and there being no equity in the house.
Fast forward and because I have been paying off debt against the house I was finally in a position to realistically transfer property over. After W announcement re OM also felt high time I got the divorce started.
Spoke to W a few weeks back that provided nothing has changed re our agreement then I will talk to solicitor to check if any problems from a legal perspective and then we would discuss again the following week re petitioning etc. I also made the mistake of mentioning the house that I could feasible transfer because there was now a small amount of equity in....big mistake.
So I speak to solicitor, get fixed price for what should have been a straight forward D (W stated she also wanted a straight forward D) on the grounds of 2 year separation. The following weekend when I pick S up W announces she has already filed. Receive the petition and whilst she ticks the 2 yea separation box as grounds for divorce she also decided to fill the additional information box with a whole load of grievances about how she felt I resented working to support the family, she gave up her life to raise our S etc etc. My solicitor was taken aback by this as in the rant W had forgotten to actually put the dates we were separated and a possibility a judge may reject it!
Agreed for solicitor to write to W with outline of what we had agreed financially with house etc. W receives letter and does a complete U-turn and is now out for everything (lump sum, spousal maintenance, on-going child support, equity in property etc etc). In her response to solicitor W also sends a length note of 'additional information' about how she left the M home with just £30 and more re-writing of history etc.
More a vent post than anything as I had actually thought there were some signs of improvement in W. Its just that I know for me personally I am done and wanted a line drawing under it. Now looks like this will drag on for ages.
She also hacked my FB account the other week (managed to trace)!
Losing the will fast!
To any out there (particularly Forever Young who I know has been out there a similar time to me) thanks for the support. I have changed my username for safety!
Thanks all