Replay behaviors - 05/14/15 03:14 PM
My BD was recent (3-21-2015). My husband seemed to jump right in and found an apartment quickly. I will admit that I am not too anxious to find out if he is having an affair, but I don't suspect (or I could just be in plain denial, I just don't want to know). What is very odd to me is the fact that my H has really connected with his mom, whom he has never been close to. She calls him daily when it used to be that they would go weeks without talking. She was validating him on his quest to leave me.
I am just unsure of what replay behaviors look like. My husband found an apartment, but hasn't told me where it is. He will sometimes obsess about looking 25 even though he is 41. He is heavily involved in music stuff again (had a recording studio in his early 20's). He is writing songs as well. He lies, lies, lies about everything-I have detached because it's stupid for me to get upset over his lies.
He wants a relationship with our children, but more as buddies (taking them to record stores, reading the books that they are reading, etc.) but has not provided a dime for them.
I am just curious, outside of an affair, what is typical replay behavior. My husband seems very full of himself at times, then he tells me that he is very ugly inside.
Oh, and he doesn't talk to me at all (other than asking if the kids are ready to be picked up). He doesn't ask how the kids feel, how school is going, how friendships are, etc.
I am just unsure of what replay behaviors look like. My husband found an apartment, but hasn't told me where it is. He will sometimes obsess about looking 25 even though he is 41. He is heavily involved in music stuff again (had a recording studio in his early 20's). He is writing songs as well. He lies, lies, lies about everything-I have detached because it's stupid for me to get upset over his lies.
He wants a relationship with our children, but more as buddies (taking them to record stores, reading the books that they are reading, etc.) but has not provided a dime for them.
I am just curious, outside of an affair, what is typical replay behavior. My husband seems very full of himself at times, then he tells me that he is very ugly inside.
Oh, and he doesn't talk to me at all (other than asking if the kids are ready to be picked up). He doesn't ask how the kids feel, how school is going, how friendships are, etc.