14th Thread to Somewhere Uncertainly - 09/07/13 06:23 PM
That last thread filled rather quickly...
Old threads are here:
#13 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2383226&page=1
#12 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2370587&page=1
#11 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2366272&page=1
#10 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2360182&page=1
#9 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2360155&page=1
#8 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2353512&page=1
#7 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2339824&page=1
#6 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2323718&page=1
#5 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2306709&page=1
#4 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2281706&page=1
#3 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2281702&page=1
#2 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2258452&page=1
#1 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2244252&page=1
W told me as I was out the door last night for my evening out ( ) that she walked to talk, but she wasn't feeling good and wasn't sure, and I had my plans already, sooooo, we agreed to talk tonight after she gets home from work.
Keeping my brain from speculating requires some effort, lol!
We had a mini-"almost R talk" the other night. I did tell her as part of the mini R talk last night that I was proud of her, doing this job with her social anxiety, how hard that must be (basically like my post on here)and I was proud that she was so successful at it, and doing something good in the world. And it was honest enthusiasm from me, and that did generate quite the smile.
But I did express my frustration at the lack of comms about some household things, and I thought that saying "We need to communicate" was a "team" way of saying it, but W didn't take it like that. She took it as authoritarian, which surprised me. I later emailed her and told her I now understand how she could have taken it that way, after sanity checking with some people.
During the talk she mentioned "the last 4 years" so she is aware, fog thinned out quite a bit? Hmm.
Yesterday morning I sent her a text, a drive-by "happy truth dart" of sorts (and an intentional pursuit) after reading Wonks'a post on Raine's thread about the what the mlc'er fears, and I think it fits right in with W:
"Hi, I want to make sure you know that I hold no bad feelings or judgments for anything in the past. Clean slate. The past is passed. "
No response to it, which doesn't mean anything, it could be just too much for her to respond to atm, except last night she wanted to talk...idk.
Guess we will find out this evening...minor stuff, or the biggies: R or D. My gut is quiet, which surprises me, but I better focus on keeping my brain quiet and/or distracted. A beautiful cool front has come through bringing the temp down to the high 70's...this IS my kind of weather so should find plenty to do!
Oh, and happy 2 year anniversary of BD to me! Whoop! And Sept 2009 was when OM1 got heavy and in EA mode with W, soooo, double whoop to 4 years!!
<ack!--- Hairball>
Lol...
Old threads are here:
#13 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2383226&page=1
#12 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2370587&page=1
#11 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2366272&page=1
#10 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2360182&page=1
#9 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2360155&page=1
#8 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2353512&page=1
#7 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2339824&page=1
#6 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2323718&page=1
#5 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2306709&page=1
#4 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2281706&page=1
#3 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2281702&page=1
#2 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2258452&page=1
#1 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2244252&page=1
W told me as I was out the door last night for my evening out ( ) that she walked to talk, but she wasn't feeling good and wasn't sure, and I had my plans already, sooooo, we agreed to talk tonight after she gets home from work.
Keeping my brain from speculating requires some effort, lol!
We had a mini-"almost R talk" the other night. I did tell her as part of the mini R talk last night that I was proud of her, doing this job with her social anxiety, how hard that must be (basically like my post on here)and I was proud that she was so successful at it, and doing something good in the world. And it was honest enthusiasm from me, and that did generate quite the smile.
But I did express my frustration at the lack of comms about some household things, and I thought that saying "We need to communicate" was a "team" way of saying it, but W didn't take it like that. She took it as authoritarian, which surprised me. I later emailed her and told her I now understand how she could have taken it that way, after sanity checking with some people.
During the talk she mentioned "the last 4 years" so she is aware, fog thinned out quite a bit? Hmm.
Yesterday morning I sent her a text, a drive-by "happy truth dart" of sorts (and an intentional pursuit) after reading Wonks'a post on Raine's thread about the what the mlc'er fears, and I think it fits right in with W:
"Hi, I want to make sure you know that I hold no bad feelings or judgments for anything in the past. Clean slate. The past is passed. "
No response to it, which doesn't mean anything, it could be just too much for her to respond to atm, except last night she wanted to talk...idk.
Guess we will find out this evening...minor stuff, or the biggies: R or D. My gut is quiet, which surprises me, but I better focus on keeping my brain quiet and/or distracted. A beautiful cool front has come through bringing the temp down to the high 70's...this IS my kind of weather so should find plenty to do!
Oh, and happy 2 year anniversary of BD to me! Whoop! And Sept 2009 was when OM1 got heavy and in EA mode with W, soooo, double whoop to 4 years!!
<ack!--- Hairball>
Lol...