I think my husband is going through a MLC - 08/18/09 04:07 AM
I have been married 16 years with no children. Recently my household has gone through quite a bit. My husbands mother became very ill and had to go on dyalisis then she had to have both her legs amputated this happened within a 4 year period. She passed about 6 months ago. During the time she was ill my husband missed a great deal of work some of it was relevant but most of the time it was not. The bills began to back up and we were falling behing on everything even the house payment.
When I saw that he wasn't going to work I would get very angry at him and tell him if this continued I was going to leave. I had creditors calling me at work I owed everybody in town. I was so embarresed. We even had to take a second and third on our home. What would make me more angry was that he would spend money we didn't have on playing cards. I was in charge of all the bills so I became very stressed out. I couldn't sleep so I would go to the other room and watch TV so I could fall asleep. So it got to were I wasn't sleeping in the same room with him. This added to our sex life detoriating.
My husband was very close to his mother she was number 1 for him. He would discuss things with her he wouldn't discuss with me. When she died I thought he would too but he actually held really good compared to others. Later on I began to notice he began to drink every weekend and my husband has never been a drinker. He also began to become very distant with everyone and a real jerk. His friends have even commented on his bad attitude. So I knew it just wasn't me.
For 4th of july weekend he went away and while he was gone my heart told me something wasn't right. He had an affair before so I noticed the signs. I tested him and told him we had become distant well I should of never said anything because he fast to pick up and leave. He claimed he needed time to see if he was still in love with me now he says it's over. That same week I found out he was talking to someone. He says he is no longer talking to her but who knows. I have begged tons of time to work things out. Today I decided that I am going to begin giving him his space. The worst part is were separated living under the same roof because of the finances. He left but when he found out I was bailing he asked if he could come back home (just to live). I was ready to leave and let the house go too. When we argue he still calls me sweetie and that really upsets me. Why call me that when you don't want me.
Should I still wash his clothes or buy his stuff? Please help!
When I saw that he wasn't going to work I would get very angry at him and tell him if this continued I was going to leave. I had creditors calling me at work I owed everybody in town. I was so embarresed. We even had to take a second and third on our home. What would make me more angry was that he would spend money we didn't have on playing cards. I was in charge of all the bills so I became very stressed out. I couldn't sleep so I would go to the other room and watch TV so I could fall asleep. So it got to were I wasn't sleeping in the same room with him. This added to our sex life detoriating.
My husband was very close to his mother she was number 1 for him. He would discuss things with her he wouldn't discuss with me. When she died I thought he would too but he actually held really good compared to others. Later on I began to notice he began to drink every weekend and my husband has never been a drinker. He also began to become very distant with everyone and a real jerk. His friends have even commented on his bad attitude. So I knew it just wasn't me.
For 4th of july weekend he went away and while he was gone my heart told me something wasn't right. He had an affair before so I noticed the signs. I tested him and told him we had become distant well I should of never said anything because he fast to pick up and leave. He claimed he needed time to see if he was still in love with me now he says it's over. That same week I found out he was talking to someone. He says he is no longer talking to her but who knows. I have begged tons of time to work things out. Today I decided that I am going to begin giving him his space. The worst part is were separated living under the same roof because of the finances. He left but when he found out I was bailing he asked if he could come back home (just to live). I was ready to leave and let the house go too. When we argue he still calls me sweetie and that really upsets me. Why call me that when you don't want me.
Should I still wash his clothes or buy his stuff? Please help!