Need help with anger - 03/28/13 02:46 AM
Hello everyone. I have a post in the newcomers section thats been active the past few months but i need help with something very specific.
My sitch in a nutshell: H is depressed, possible MLC (even though he only 30, he shows all the signs minus infidelity) one day broke the news he wanted a D, gave me every one liner you can think of but did not leave the home. I did EVERYTHING wrong. 6 month later (now) we are still living together in a room mate type way, no intimacy, H doesnt want any. The one issue I am dealing with above all is anger and rage at him for putting me through this.
It consumes my daily thoughts to the point where i am afraid to act out my anger (I have smashed things in the home in the past during the first 2 months of this, namely my cell phone while talking to him) even now when I think about the sitch I get really bent out of shape and actually think I hate him sometimes. I certainly hate what he is doing to me and in a way I hate him because of his inability to grow up.
I talk to my family alot over this and it does help with the loneliness but not with my urge to scream at him/slap him/throw something at him. Luckly I have not so far.
Any advice? Techniques? Something? Thanks!
My sitch in a nutshell: H is depressed, possible MLC (even though he only 30, he shows all the signs minus infidelity) one day broke the news he wanted a D, gave me every one liner you can think of but did not leave the home. I did EVERYTHING wrong. 6 month later (now) we are still living together in a room mate type way, no intimacy, H doesnt want any. The one issue I am dealing with above all is anger and rage at him for putting me through this.
It consumes my daily thoughts to the point where i am afraid to act out my anger (I have smashed things in the home in the past during the first 2 months of this, namely my cell phone while talking to him) even now when I think about the sitch I get really bent out of shape and actually think I hate him sometimes. I certainly hate what he is doing to me and in a way I hate him because of his inability to grow up.
I talk to my family alot over this and it does help with the loneliness but not with my urge to scream at him/slap him/throw something at him. Luckly I have not so far.
Any advice? Techniques? Something? Thanks!