WAW - says we NEVER had sexual chemistry - 12/10/14 02:11 PM
I don't know how to post my question without giving you the long story so if you find this topic interesting, let me know and I'll lay it all out. The history really matters...
Basically...my WAW is saying that our sex life never had any passion or chemistry. I agreed that we started off a bit slow but that it picked up and I remember us both having a few really hot encounters. She says she didn't like those and that she doesn't love me the way a wife should love a husband. She has no desire to please me she says. I agreed our sex life needs some work but we haven't DONE any work so...she also just had an emotional affair where she developed feelings for a guy at work and it led to her lying to me, meeting him, and almost sex (yes, I believe her that it wasn't sex). She admitted it would have been had she not stopped it.
So...
What do I believe? How do I talk to her about this? If she has valid feelings I don't want to steam roll them, but some of this just sounds so crazy and I'm worried if there's no voice of reason then her confusion will just run off with the show and she'll be gone. I disagree with a great deal of what she says but I don't want to sound like I'm selling her as she is leaning out right now. Again though, I don't want to validate all the claims she's making and reinforce what I see to be a misconception.
Basically...my WAW is saying that our sex life never had any passion or chemistry. I agreed that we started off a bit slow but that it picked up and I remember us both having a few really hot encounters. She says she didn't like those and that she doesn't love me the way a wife should love a husband. She has no desire to please me she says. I agreed our sex life needs some work but we haven't DONE any work so...she also just had an emotional affair where she developed feelings for a guy at work and it led to her lying to me, meeting him, and almost sex (yes, I believe her that it wasn't sex). She admitted it would have been had she not stopped it.
So...
What do I believe? How do I talk to her about this? If she has valid feelings I don't want to steam roll them, but some of this just sounds so crazy and I'm worried if there's no voice of reason then her confusion will just run off with the show and she'll be gone. I disagree with a great deal of what she says but I don't want to sound like I'm selling her as she is leaning out right now. Again though, I don't want to validate all the claims she's making and reinforce what I see to be a misconception.