“We cannot control a relationship. We can only contribute to a relationship. All relationships, business or personal, are an opportunity to serve another human being.”
--Simon Sinek
Thought I would start a new thread to share some appropriate quotes. This one struck me.
Here are three I live by:
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them –that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like” – Lao Tzu
"Success depends upon previous preparation, and without such preparation, there is sure to be failure." – Confucius
Admiral Stockdale quote
He was
A POW in Vietnam.
I never lost faith in the end of the story, I never doubted not only that I would get out, but also that I would prevail in the end and turn the experience into the defining event of my life, which, in retrospect, I would not trade.
When Collins asked who didn't make it out of Vietnam, Stockdale replied:
Oh, that's easy, the optimists. Oh, they were the ones who said, 'We're going to be out by Christmas.' And Christmas would come, and Christmas would go. Then they'd say, 'We're going to be out by Easter.' And Easter would come, and Easter would go. And then Thanksgiving, and then it would be Christmas again. And they died of a broken heart.
Stockdale then added:
This is a very important lesson. You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end—which you can never afford to lose—with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end—which you can never afford to lose—with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Which falls in line with another favorite quote of mine:
“You can ignore reality, but you cannot ignore the consequences of ignoring reality.” – Ayn Rand
The insight from the Stockdale quote is brilliant. I remember coming across it a long time ago and it was illuminating then, and it is still now.
My overarching quote from all of this is by David Goggins - "No one is coming to save YOU". I live by that every single day.
“Relationships are such that if one person changes, the relationship changes.”
“If it works, don't fix it; do more of it.”
"Real giving is when we give to our spouses what's important to them, whether we understand it, like it, agree with it, or not."
- Michele Weiner-Davis
"Keep your head up. Keep fighting. There is always light at the end of the tunnel, and your struggles only make you better in the end." - Unknown
"Keep going. No matter how stuck you feel. No matter how bad things are right now. No matter how many days you've spent crying. No matter how hopeless and depressed you feel. No matter how many days you've spent wishing things were different. I promise you won't feel this way forever. Keep going." - Unknown
“Relationships are such that if one person changes, the relationship changes.”
“If it works, don't fix it; do more of it.”
"Real giving is when we give to our spouses what's important to them, whether we understand it, like it, agree with it, or not."
- Michele Weiner-Davis
Love those! I need to go read DR again. Such great stuff in there.
"For what it's worth: it's never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There's no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you're proud of. If you find that you're not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again."
Eric Roth, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button
“My mom always said life was like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get.”
Forrest Gump
How about quoting a whole song? The Cake version is more up my alley but this is PG.
I Will Survive
At first I was afraid I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without you by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong
And so you're back from outer space
I just walked in to find you here with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed that stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I'd've known for just one second you'd back to bother me
Go on now, go walk out the door
Just turn around now
('Cause) you're not welcome anymore
Weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
Did I crumble
Did you think I'd lay down and die?
Oh no, not.I. I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love I know I'll stay alive;
I've got all my life to live,
I've got all my love to give and I'll survive,
I will survive. Hey hey.
It took all the strength I had not to fall apart
Kept trying' hard to mend the pieces of my broken heart,
And I spent oh so many nights
Just feeling sorry for myself. I used to cry
But now I hold my head up high
And you see me somebody new
I'm not that chained up little person still in love with you,
And so you feel like droppin' in
And just expect me to be free,
Now I'm savin' all my lovin' for someone who's lovin' me
Go on now..
Five Finger Death Punch Lyrics
"The Bleeding"
I remember when all the games began
Remember every little lie and every last goodbye
Promises you broke, words you choked on
And I never walked away
It's still a mystery to me
Well I'm so empty
I'm better off without you and you're better off without me
Well you're so unclean
I'm better off without you and you're better off without me
The lying, the bleeding, the screaming
Was tearing me apart
The hatred (deceiving), the beatings; it's over
Paint the mirrors black to forget you
I still picture your face and the way you used to taste
Roses in a glass, dead and wilted
To you this all was nothing
Everything to you is nothing
Well you're so filthy
I'm better off without you and you're better off without me
Well I'm so ugly
You're better off without me and I'm better off alone
The lying, the bleeding, the screaming
Was tearing me apart
The hatred, the beatings (disaster); it's over
As wicked as you are, you're beautiful to me
You're the darkest burning star, you're my perfect disease
The lying, the bleeding, the screaming
Was tearing me apart
The hatred, the beatings; it's over
Disaster
The lying, the bleeding, the screaming
Was tearing me apart
The hatred, the beatings; it's over
Disaster
It's over now...
"Fool me once shame on you.
Fool me twice shame on me.
Fool me a hundred times, I must be a LBS."
...........
"When I was going through this, my mantra was
Today is not the day that I quit
Maybe I will quit tomorrow, yet I will wait to see what tomorrow brings
Then repeat that tomorrow"
...........
"You talked the talk.
Now it's time to walk the walk
...and stop talking."
............
Jack_Three_Beans
"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Ready2Change
"Listen here my friend, I am going to be brutally honest, you need to find your b@lls ASAP"
Love....LH19
"Listen here my friend, I am going to be brutally honest, you need to find your b@lls ASAP"
Love....LH19
LOL!
"Listen here my friend, I am going to be brutally honest, you need to find your b@lls ASAP"
Love....LH19
LOL!
LOL that was not a headshot, it was a ballshot
"You are enough. It is ridiculous how enough you are" (for times when I doubt myself)
and
"Just keeping [censored] going"
or for those that prefer the Disney version
"Just keep swimming" (for the times when I want to give up).
Steve
For future reference their is a button on the bottom right of each post that says "report"
better to use that than the method you used for future reference.
However it should all be taken care of - At least I think.
"Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose"
Yoda
Steve
For future reference their is a button on the bottom right of each post that says "report"
better to use that than the method you used for future reference.
However it should all be taken care of - At least I think.
Ah! Thanks Cadet. Will use that if I ever have a temporary loss of sanity again in the future! Thanks.
“When you're about to quit, remember why you started.”
--Author Unknown
Here is an effective way to get reluctant spouse to counseling:
Spouse,
I understand your desire to keep this process moving forward as quickly as possible. I also understand XYZ and ABC. I have identified a counselor I feel would help give us closure to this difficult time in our lives. I need to do this to move forward. Regardless of the future, I am real certain that I never want to be in this situation again. I need to learn from this experience. The sessions will include co-parenting dialog to assure the least negative effects on our kids. I just need to supply them several different dates that work for us so they can fit us in their schedule.
Thank you for understanding Me
"A bird sitting in a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because his trust is not on the branch but in his own wings"
--Author Unknown
Link"If you’re depressed, you’re living in the past.
If you’re anxious, you’re living in the future.
If you’re content, you’re living in the present."
I got that from DnJ´s posts.
Live the present, face reality. Cool, calm, collected.
Time and patience are key factors.
Keep DB
Link"If you’re depressed, you’re living in the past.
If you’re anxious, you’re living in the future.
If you’re content, you’re living in the present."
I got that from DnJ´s posts.
Live the present, face reality. Cool, calm, collected.
Time and patience are key factors.
Keep DB
That's good! It should go in your thread R2C. I envisioned this one as more of non-DB quotes that might help DBers.
Love is the excruciating truth that you can experience a slow, encumbered death; yet kept alive to feel every twist from elated joy before the fall to heartbreak. We put so much hope into such basic primal instincts of attraction and stamp a label on it called love. Love is the irony where our most euphoric joy and devastating torments derive from, and its surprising how easily the tides can shift between the two. Eventually we get to a point of exhaustion on this emotional rollercoaster, and find ourselves on a path of self discovery reexamining the mistakes that lead up to this point. We call this a Vision Quest, and everyone at some point in life will walk their own unique path revisiting past loves and relationships. Almost every true heartbreak spirals you down a path of agony till you regain balance in your own personal life and regain the neutral perspective of love and relationships. You need to be in this neutral perspective before moving on, or you will destroy everything and everyone in your path while living in denial of an existing heartbreak you have not recovered from. Denial leaves your character bankrupt and the lack of a moral compass to make the right decisions; which in turn makes those who might cross your path victims of your pain that has not healed with time. 7 billion people one the planet, and we all experience love and heartbreak in the most common of ways. Love! Isn't it great!?!?
Small choices become actions.
Actions become habits.
Habits become our way of life.
Without error there can be no brilliancy.
Emanuel Lasker
Those both are outstanding, R2C!