Help needed with wayward wife - 02/09/19 08:58 PM
I has been couple months, since we have been living in separate rooms. We had been together for 18 years, no kids
On December 9th I asked what was going on with her. I felt like she was spending more and more time by herself and did not want to spend with me or our friends. She was very secretive and I asked how she felt about our relationship and she could not answer. I had a bad feeling that she was cheating and started to pay more attention to her whereabouts. She stopped wearing wedding band probably since the beginning of November.
On 12/26/18 She said she went to Nordstrom store. I tracked her phone and confirmed that she was in residential area and meeting a guy and having sex. Once she came back from his place I confronted her and she admitted that she saw him couples times. The guy is 10 years younger at first she said it just a fling. For couple weeks since then I have been a mess, however I quickly decided that I needed help and called therapist and started my healing process. I started reading divorce busting and researching how to communicate and work thru this. I stopped bothering her, gave her space and time. We would just say to each other good morning and good night and maybe some polite conversation. i was reading about boundaries and asked her not to use our house for affair resources. Today 02/09 I said that i felt being disrespected, by her continuing this affair. I asked why she haven't come to me sooner to talk about our problems and she said that she was a coward. I stated that I might live couple more month like this and said she might need to move out. I said sometime people need to spend time seperatly .Couple of my friends know of this, they helped me a lot. we haven' told family or any other of our friends. . I had been spending a lot of time outside with friends going to a dance class, gym. I had been on my best behavior, however I am not sure if there is a chance on this anymore.
On December 9th I asked what was going on with her. I felt like she was spending more and more time by herself and did not want to spend with me or our friends. She was very secretive and I asked how she felt about our relationship and she could not answer. I had a bad feeling that she was cheating and started to pay more attention to her whereabouts. She stopped wearing wedding band probably since the beginning of November.
On 12/26/18 She said she went to Nordstrom store. I tracked her phone and confirmed that she was in residential area and meeting a guy and having sex. Once she came back from his place I confronted her and she admitted that she saw him couples times. The guy is 10 years younger at first she said it just a fling. For couple weeks since then I have been a mess, however I quickly decided that I needed help and called therapist and started my healing process. I started reading divorce busting and researching how to communicate and work thru this. I stopped bothering her, gave her space and time. We would just say to each other good morning and good night and maybe some polite conversation. i was reading about boundaries and asked her not to use our house for affair resources. Today 02/09 I said that i felt being disrespected, by her continuing this affair. I asked why she haven't come to me sooner to talk about our problems and she said that she was a coward. I stated that I might live couple more month like this and said she might need to move out. I said sometime people need to spend time seperatly .Couple of my friends know of this, they helped me a lot. we haven' told family or any other of our friends. . I had been spending a lot of time outside with friends going to a dance class, gym. I had been on my best behavior, however I am not sure if there is a chance on this anymore.