WAW had an affair - hurt and confused - Part 2 - 03/14/17 05:18 AM
Previous thread (Part 1): http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2728962#Post2728962
To recap: my W unloaded on me with a laundry list of issues she had with me and the MR in December 2016. 2 days later she went on a work trip where an EA with a co-worker turned into a PA. The PA has since ended after OM's W found out and contacted me, plus due to my W realizing the guy was lying and manipulating the whole time and had no intentions of leaving his W. Currently my W has been in more contact with me and is wanting to come by the house more often but is often hot/cold.
For my update, I'm doing well with detaching. Almost too well. I've definitely reached a point where I'd be OK with no R but I'm quickly getting to a point of wondering whether I even want it. So much damage and pain has been caused by her actions and words that it makes me wonder what I'd even be trying to save. She is rewriting history to make herself seem more innocent (talking as if we were basically divorced at the time of the PA) or noble (talking like she ended the affair because it was hurting people).
That she's able to twist things and, I think, genuinely believe them is kind of scary. I really question her mental state with how she talks and what she's done. And I don't know if she has the capability of putting in the hard work a R takes. I'm seeing now how self-centered and selfish she's always been.
No contact is still in place. We haven't spoken since last Monday and I have 0 intention of initiating any further talks. I had a good weekend of dinner with my sister/BIL one night, dinner with my parents the next and hanging out with a friend. I ran some errands and cleaned up around the house. No more moping around on the couch for this guy.
To recap: my W unloaded on me with a laundry list of issues she had with me and the MR in December 2016. 2 days later she went on a work trip where an EA with a co-worker turned into a PA. The PA has since ended after OM's W found out and contacted me, plus due to my W realizing the guy was lying and manipulating the whole time and had no intentions of leaving his W. Currently my W has been in more contact with me and is wanting to come by the house more often but is often hot/cold.
For my update, I'm doing well with detaching. Almost too well. I've definitely reached a point where I'd be OK with no R but I'm quickly getting to a point of wondering whether I even want it. So much damage and pain has been caused by her actions and words that it makes me wonder what I'd even be trying to save. She is rewriting history to make herself seem more innocent (talking as if we were basically divorced at the time of the PA) or noble (talking like she ended the affair because it was hurting people).
That she's able to twist things and, I think, genuinely believe them is kind of scary. I really question her mental state with how she talks and what she's done. And I don't know if she has the capability of putting in the hard work a R takes. I'm seeing now how self-centered and selfish she's always been.
No contact is still in place. We haven't spoken since last Monday and I have 0 intention of initiating any further talks. I had a good weekend of dinner with my sister/BIL one night, dinner with my parents the next and hanging out with a friend. I ran some errands and cleaned up around the house. No more moping around on the couch for this guy.