Destruction - 1 - 05/20/16 07:03 AM
Hi, I'm new to the board but certainly not new to MLC. Last month I received BD#2 more than 6 years after the last and could use some support. This first post is some history, Second is my current situation.
TIMELINE:
7-09
Out of state OM entered our lives through online role playing game. Our sex life increases, W puts funky colors in her hair.
11-09
Bomb drop, EA as W loves him and spends hours online chatting with him. Writes erotic fiction of their characters and themselves. Skypes with him.
12-09
At Christmas party my sis-in-law says "Get a lawyer" which W overhears. They to this day have never spoken since, nor has W ever returned to a family gathering with me.
1-10
We see lawyers. I refuse to leave the home.
2-10
We separate as W leaves, moves to out of state apartment her dad owns.
3-10
She drives to OM has PA but OM apparently drops her. W is deeply depressed.
4-10
I get invited to her family Easter, accepted by most. Sex between us resumes. Still living 130 miles apart, we meet to exchange kids.
5-10
We go to Jamaica with her best friend (BF) and other H (significant as other H is the current alienator!)
6-10
I lose my job/massive back step. D talks resume.
8-10
Four sons move in with W in a new townhome while I'm still unemployed a state away dealing with our old empty home. Stay with them sometimes sleeping on couch.
9-10
I find work in W's town, abandon our old home, "Bring your dresser." Tell kids we're back together. W won't share master bathroom with me.
10-10
W gains a huge slew of friends, and introduces herself with a new made up name (Seer character from one of her stories). A name that to this day she uses and has a jewelry making business under.
5-11
I find letter to a new local OM about her crush on him. He's soon dropped along with his W as stalker creeps.
8-12
Move across town and it feels like a fresher start to an old farm home we're renting.
Tattoos acquired between BD and now: 8. Hair colors: brunette, blonde, blue and purple
10-13
Hair is finally back to brown! She no longer dresses like a pinup model. She retook me as a friend on Facebook too.
3-14
One of the biggest difficulties is knowing when she wants to be alone and when she wants me around.
4-14
She wanted to wear her hair in a mohawk and she drew swirlies on her face, no doubt to impress a certain married party guest who admirers warrior chicks.
5-14
W expresses anger with my facebook usage as my posts are 'bragging to make me look good to the ladies'. She drops me on Facebook.
6-14
I finally figure out how my relationship works. My W and I are in different rooms each engaged in our own activities.
A) If I'm feeling a bit W deprived I go find her and join/hang around whatever activity shes doing.
B) If I'm feeling a bit W deprived I go find her and shes wanting personal space and shoos me away.
C) If W is feeling a bit deprived of me she either gets sad/mad in the other room because I won't join her or drops in on my activity to cry or bitch because I "don't want to be with her" (and join whatever activity shes doing).
D) She keeps to herself 'cause she doesn't care' outside her own activity
the missing option...
E) Her joining me whatever I'm doing
7-14
First time since 12-09. W comes face to face with many of my family as my grandmother died and W comes with me to my Uncles for 1 hr. Afterwards we visit her BF and other H (these two are VERY significant in current events) whom we'd not seen since 2-10
8-14
W is just an angry irish, insecure, temperamental, jealous, woman. I am friended on Facebook.
11-14
W complains of me disrespecting her and that I need to step up around the house.
2-15
W bought purple hair extensions which reminds me of the past color extravaganza.
6-15
I get home and W is drinking and dancing and very flirty. I do notice her texting a guy friend. Something just feels off, so I grab her phone and go to bathroom to scan her messages, while shes busy with pets in another room. Despite her having texted the guy moments ago there is no history of messages to him. Deleted.
9-15
We go on overnight trip with her BF and other H. Play naughty truth or dare in hotel room. The usual drinking and fun, but W puts on an act when they are around. Wearing devil horns one night even.
12-15
W continues to wear purple hair extensions from time to time when her BF and other H visit from neighboring state. W posts on facebook everytime she's drinking (and by no means is a frequent drinker, besides wine) but presents a persona of being a beer drinker.
We bought a house, our first since the abandoned property 5 years ago. I can barely afford it.
TIMELINE:
7-09
Out of state OM entered our lives through online role playing game. Our sex life increases, W puts funky colors in her hair.
11-09
Bomb drop, EA as W loves him and spends hours online chatting with him. Writes erotic fiction of their characters and themselves. Skypes with him.
12-09
At Christmas party my sis-in-law says "Get a lawyer" which W overhears. They to this day have never spoken since, nor has W ever returned to a family gathering with me.
1-10
We see lawyers. I refuse to leave the home.
2-10
We separate as W leaves, moves to out of state apartment her dad owns.
3-10
She drives to OM has PA but OM apparently drops her. W is deeply depressed.
4-10
I get invited to her family Easter, accepted by most. Sex between us resumes. Still living 130 miles apart, we meet to exchange kids.
5-10
We go to Jamaica with her best friend (BF) and other H (significant as other H is the current alienator!)
6-10
I lose my job/massive back step. D talks resume.
8-10
Four sons move in with W in a new townhome while I'm still unemployed a state away dealing with our old empty home. Stay with them sometimes sleeping on couch.
9-10
I find work in W's town, abandon our old home, "Bring your dresser." Tell kids we're back together. W won't share master bathroom with me.
10-10
W gains a huge slew of friends, and introduces herself with a new made up name (Seer character from one of her stories). A name that to this day she uses and has a jewelry making business under.
5-11
I find letter to a new local OM about her crush on him. He's soon dropped along with his W as stalker creeps.
8-12
Move across town and it feels like a fresher start to an old farm home we're renting.
Tattoos acquired between BD and now: 8. Hair colors: brunette, blonde, blue and purple
10-13
Hair is finally back to brown! She no longer dresses like a pinup model. She retook me as a friend on Facebook too.
3-14
One of the biggest difficulties is knowing when she wants to be alone and when she wants me around.
4-14
She wanted to wear her hair in a mohawk and she drew swirlies on her face, no doubt to impress a certain married party guest who admirers warrior chicks.
5-14
W expresses anger with my facebook usage as my posts are 'bragging to make me look good to the ladies'. She drops me on Facebook.
6-14
I finally figure out how my relationship works. My W and I are in different rooms each engaged in our own activities.
A) If I'm feeling a bit W deprived I go find her and join/hang around whatever activity shes doing.
B) If I'm feeling a bit W deprived I go find her and shes wanting personal space and shoos me away.
C) If W is feeling a bit deprived of me she either gets sad/mad in the other room because I won't join her or drops in on my activity to cry or bitch because I "don't want to be with her" (and join whatever activity shes doing).
D) She keeps to herself 'cause she doesn't care' outside her own activity
the missing option...
E) Her joining me whatever I'm doing
7-14
First time since 12-09. W comes face to face with many of my family as my grandmother died and W comes with me to my Uncles for 1 hr. Afterwards we visit her BF and other H (these two are VERY significant in current events) whom we'd not seen since 2-10
8-14
W is just an angry irish, insecure, temperamental, jealous, woman. I am friended on Facebook.
11-14
W complains of me disrespecting her and that I need to step up around the house.
2-15
W bought purple hair extensions which reminds me of the past color extravaganza.
6-15
I get home and W is drinking and dancing and very flirty. I do notice her texting a guy friend. Something just feels off, so I grab her phone and go to bathroom to scan her messages, while shes busy with pets in another room. Despite her having texted the guy moments ago there is no history of messages to him. Deleted.
9-15
We go on overnight trip with her BF and other H. Play naughty truth or dare in hotel room. The usual drinking and fun, but W puts on an act when they are around. Wearing devil horns one night even.
12-15
W continues to wear purple hair extensions from time to time when her BF and other H visit from neighboring state. W posts on facebook everytime she's drinking (and by no means is a frequent drinker, besides wine) but presents a persona of being a beer drinker.
We bought a house, our first since the abandoned property 5 years ago. I can barely afford it.