Time to detach - but how? - 11/19/15 02:01 AM
Hello. I've been reading this forum daily since May, but this is my first post. My H and I have been living separately since May. That is when I found out he has been having an affair with a woman I know. I've read the DB book and all of Cadets links but I've been making mistakes right and left. We went to Retrouvaille in June and I had a hard time doing that and DBing at the same time. To summarize my totally messed up life in one sentence - my H continued the affair until she broke it off at the end of October, she is pregnant with what is 98% my H's child, my mother died this summer and I don't want to divorce this man that I do not know but love with all my heart. I think that they are back together now and I need to remove myself from this hell. How do I detach?
This is what I've accomplished in the last 6 months
1. I've started excercising 4 times a week, watching what I eat and have lost 60 pounds
2. Started going out with friends to new activities when the kids are with H
3. Have maintained my kids's way of life without H or his income
This is what I've accomplished in the last 6 months
1. I've started excercising 4 times a week, watching what I eat and have lost 60 pounds
2. Started going out with friends to new activities when the kids are with H
3. Have maintained my kids's way of life without H or his income