I love you but I'm not in love with you... - 09/28/15 02:31 AM
New here, so here's my sitch
H developed new best friendship that was one of our mutual friends in April. I considered her a really good friend. Physical lines blurred while drinking (footsie and back rubbing. ) we argued weekly about me thinking they were too close may - june. I feel they developed an EA. H states "just best friends" I gave up and said I'm gonna trust him. Confronted H mid July about the missing friendship in our M, that is when he said I love you but I'm not in love with you. Feels disconnected emotionally. I had no idea. We never fought before may and I had always trusted him completely.
H left home 8/15 to sleep at friends now going on two months. Says he needs time and space. We still hangout sometimes the two of us, but usually with the kids. We are in EFT but he is not putting much effort in. He expect the counselor to just fix it.
Said spending time with me is not the most fun thing and that we have nothing in common. He feels he has nothing to talk to me about and does not engage well in conversation other than a little about the kids and maybe one or two things then he's done.
At first I was being pushy but I backed off and that helped, but now I feel like he likes status quo and is not motivated to really "work" on R. We did discernment counseling and he said he does not want a D.
Ahh... What do I do from here? Lrt? HELP!
M-11 T-16
S 8 & 6
H developed new best friendship that was one of our mutual friends in April. I considered her a really good friend. Physical lines blurred while drinking (footsie and back rubbing. ) we argued weekly about me thinking they were too close may - june. I feel they developed an EA. H states "just best friends" I gave up and said I'm gonna trust him. Confronted H mid July about the missing friendship in our M, that is when he said I love you but I'm not in love with you. Feels disconnected emotionally. I had no idea. We never fought before may and I had always trusted him completely.
H left home 8/15 to sleep at friends now going on two months. Says he needs time and space. We still hangout sometimes the two of us, but usually with the kids. We are in EFT but he is not putting much effort in. He expect the counselor to just fix it.
Said spending time with me is not the most fun thing and that we have nothing in common. He feels he has nothing to talk to me about and does not engage well in conversation other than a little about the kids and maybe one or two things then he's done.
At first I was being pushy but I backed off and that helped, but now I feel like he likes status quo and is not motivated to really "work" on R. We did discernment counseling and he said he does not want a D.
Ahh... What do I do from here? Lrt? HELP!
M-11 T-16
S 8 & 6