Take your stuff - 12/19/14 04:05 AM
H moved out 6/14 into an apartment and has OW that lives out of town but does a lot of contract work for companies in our town. Of course OW stays with H when she is in town. H still has A LOT of his belongings here at our home including hundreds of books and a garage full of tools and woodworking equipment. He used to enjoy making small pieces of furniture such as end tables and bookcases. H has agreed to stay married so that I can continue to use medical benefits through his job. He has been cordial throughout this nightmare and says he has a deep fraternal love for me - ILUBNILWY. When he moved out, he did not know if he would come back or not. It's been 6 months now, although I understand this is a short time regarding DB standards. I am conflicted about requesting that he move the rest of his stuff out. He doesn't have room in his small apartment and would have to rent storage space. I don't want to keep any of the furniture he made and sometimes feel that seeing all of his stuff daily is just a painful reminder that he's gone. We have almost no contact. Today I sent him an email asking him to move the remainder of his things out of the house. Honestly, there was probably a tad bit of spite mixed in the request because I know it's going to be a real pain to clean out the garage and move everything. Was I wrong to ask him to do this? Has anyone had a similar situation? Need input, please. I see no signs of a R in the near future, if ever.