Really need some help - 11/21/14 04:17 PM
My WAS and I were together for 6 years before getting married a little over a year ago. Had you asked me 3 days ago, I would have said we have a happy relationship and my wife wouldn't leave me for the world. She has a 10 year old son that I have been raising as my own for 7 years.
1 month ago her FB status referred to as the man of her dreams and her picture is always one of our W pictures. 2 months ago we had a little tif about kids. She wanted to start having our own kids right now. I wanted to wait a year. I am 32 she is 28.
Two days ago 19/11/14, I came home from work and noticed my W seemed a bit off when I gave her my customary "hey baby" with a kiss on cheek. She said nothing is wrong, I pressed a bit and told her i knew something was up. She said, I have to work soon but we will talk about it tomorrow when i'm off.
I pressed some more and she blurted out that she isn't happy and needs to "find herself". She told me she shouldn't have rushed me into marriage and it was probably a mistake. This caught me totally off guard. I couldn't believe it.
I made all the mistakes from Sandi's rules. I pleaded, wept, reasoned and got angry. How dare she take our marriage vows so lightly. How dare she escalate to this point without giving me a chance to fix it. How dare she break up our happy home.
We had never even came close to a breakup in 7 years. There was no abuse and no infidelity (that i know of).
She left for work which has her working until the early morning and crawled in bed beside me. I gave her a light squeeze on the arm and went to sleep. I had thought of showing her Wedding pics and even started writing her a letter. Glad i dodged those bullets.
The next day I spend most of the time reading and re-reading Sandi's rules. For some reason it made me feel better to do that. When I walked in the door I had the best intentions. I was going to do a 180 or LRT. I said nothing and tried to act cheerful. After 30 minutes she brought it up again. I sat down beside her and smiled. I told her i'm here to listen. She told me she still feels the same. She immediately told me that I could keep our pets. She wouldn't separate from my man's best friend (who was a gift to her that she loves). She started talking about how it would be hard on our son but we would need to deal with it. She then said we needed to be apart right now. She said she was getting a hotel for the night and needed time and space. I got upset and pleaded with her not leave me alone on this worst day of my life. I had no place to go. She got upset and stayed for a few more minutes to talk. She told me to talk to my friends and try to feel better.
Should I up and leave today? I could probably manage to stay around for at least a week or two. I'm worried moving out will just finalize the situation. I really want my wife back.
1 month ago her FB status referred to as the man of her dreams and her picture is always one of our W pictures. 2 months ago we had a little tif about kids. She wanted to start having our own kids right now. I wanted to wait a year. I am 32 she is 28.
Two days ago 19/11/14, I came home from work and noticed my W seemed a bit off when I gave her my customary "hey baby" with a kiss on cheek. She said nothing is wrong, I pressed a bit and told her i knew something was up. She said, I have to work soon but we will talk about it tomorrow when i'm off.
I pressed some more and she blurted out that she isn't happy and needs to "find herself". She told me she shouldn't have rushed me into marriage and it was probably a mistake. This caught me totally off guard. I couldn't believe it.
I made all the mistakes from Sandi's rules. I pleaded, wept, reasoned and got angry. How dare she take our marriage vows so lightly. How dare she escalate to this point without giving me a chance to fix it. How dare she break up our happy home.
We had never even came close to a breakup in 7 years. There was no abuse and no infidelity (that i know of).
She left for work which has her working until the early morning and crawled in bed beside me. I gave her a light squeeze on the arm and went to sleep. I had thought of showing her Wedding pics and even started writing her a letter. Glad i dodged those bullets.
The next day I spend most of the time reading and re-reading Sandi's rules. For some reason it made me feel better to do that. When I walked in the door I had the best intentions. I was going to do a 180 or LRT. I said nothing and tried to act cheerful. After 30 minutes she brought it up again. I sat down beside her and smiled. I told her i'm here to listen. She told me she still feels the same. She immediately told me that I could keep our pets. She wouldn't separate from my man's best friend (who was a gift to her that she loves). She started talking about how it would be hard on our son but we would need to deal with it. She then said we needed to be apart right now. She said she was getting a hotel for the night and needed time and space. I got upset and pleaded with her not leave me alone on this worst day of my life. I had no place to go. She got upset and stayed for a few more minutes to talk. She told me to talk to my friends and try to feel better.
Should I up and leave today? I could probably manage to stay around for at least a week or two. I'm worried moving out will just finalize the situation. I really want my wife back.