LIfe after DB - 02/28/13 07:57 PM
Hey:
Not sure if many people remember me or my sitch. Just want to update. As low as we can get on here and those of you know that know my sitch where my wife committed suicide in Augest of 2011 can attest to how low i became. There is life after failed attempts to reconcile. The sun will in fact come up and life does in fact go on and its up to each and every one of us to determine how we do that. GAL is very difficult indeed, almost impossible as long as we allow ourselves to stay stuck.
Now in my sitch, i had NO choice but to move on. She didnt divorce me, she simply died and I was convinced i would never see another real happy day. I went through a very infantile stage if you will, where i dated a number of woman and was intimate with a few in hopes that things would improve, they did not.
As cliche as it sounds, when you least expect it , somebody will come into your life if you allow that opening to materialize. And now , i cannot believe how happy i am since i have found a lovely lady that stimulates me in every way.
Sometimes we put our exes on a pedestal and see only the good.
Now that the fog has finally cleared, i can see some truths.
1) Her death was NOT my fault despite my earlier self loathing
2)She was a beautiful person and i did love her, but i am capable of finding love again with someone that is even more compatible and will love me for who i am
3) She cheated on me and did not value me as a person. But she didnt value herself either.
4) Life does go on and since its the only one we get, we better start living life. Love that quote from Shawshank
"either get busy living or get busy dying"
I have chosen the latter despite some crazy hard days and nights. Sometimes i didnt think i would make it.
Im only one story,, but I now know that my wife did not define who i am.
Peace all
Nine
Not sure if many people remember me or my sitch. Just want to update. As low as we can get on here and those of you know that know my sitch where my wife committed suicide in Augest of 2011 can attest to how low i became. There is life after failed attempts to reconcile. The sun will in fact come up and life does in fact go on and its up to each and every one of us to determine how we do that. GAL is very difficult indeed, almost impossible as long as we allow ourselves to stay stuck.
Now in my sitch, i had NO choice but to move on. She didnt divorce me, she simply died and I was convinced i would never see another real happy day. I went through a very infantile stage if you will, where i dated a number of woman and was intimate with a few in hopes that things would improve, they did not.
As cliche as it sounds, when you least expect it , somebody will come into your life if you allow that opening to materialize. And now , i cannot believe how happy i am since i have found a lovely lady that stimulates me in every way.
Sometimes we put our exes on a pedestal and see only the good.
Now that the fog has finally cleared, i can see some truths.
1) Her death was NOT my fault despite my earlier self loathing
2)She was a beautiful person and i did love her, but i am capable of finding love again with someone that is even more compatible and will love me for who i am
3) She cheated on me and did not value me as a person. But she didnt value herself either.
4) Life does go on and since its the only one we get, we better start living life. Love that quote from Shawshank
"either get busy living or get busy dying"
I have chosen the latter despite some crazy hard days and nights. Sometimes i didnt think i would make it.
Im only one story,, but I now know that my wife did not define who i am.
Peace all
Nine