What if you change your mind? - 09/10/10 10:05 PM
It hit me in the car. I realized that when i first came to this site, I was devastated because my H was done. I wanted it to work.
But what do you do when you realize it was the idea of them? Their former self? The one who you fell for? The one who would never have hurt you like this? Do the things they are doing? What do you do when you have to ask.... Could I ever REALLY forgive?
We are no where near an R. I'm honest about that. But now I realize... Even if he were to come to me tomorrow and say he wanted me back.... I don't think i could, or would. Not after the pain. Had he come to me months ago, maybe. But not with how he has acted and who he has become. I don't LIKE this person. I don't love this person. I DON'T want it to work anymore.
What do I do with this? Is this part of the process? It feels so foreign to me. I spent so much time mourning the loss of my marriage it feels weird to be here. I wasn't mourning the loss of HIM. What am I really fighting for?
But what do you do when you realize it was the idea of them? Their former self? The one who you fell for? The one who would never have hurt you like this? Do the things they are doing? What do you do when you have to ask.... Could I ever REALLY forgive?
We are no where near an R. I'm honest about that. But now I realize... Even if he were to come to me tomorrow and say he wanted me back.... I don't think i could, or would. Not after the pain. Had he come to me months ago, maybe. But not with how he has acted and who he has become. I don't LIKE this person. I don't love this person. I DON'T want it to work anymore.
What do I do with this? Is this part of the process? It feels so foreign to me. I spent so much time mourning the loss of my marriage it feels weird to be here. I wasn't mourning the loss of HIM. What am I really fighting for?