I suspect that H is engaged to OW - 09/04/15 06:10 PM
This sounds crazy. H and I have been reconciling since February. We have been in MC with a DB-counselor. H has not been willing to write the cease and desist-note to OW, but otherwise things have become a lot better.
Recently, he started acting out when I tried to schedule MC. I told him he could schedule, I didn't need his anger over something like that. He said he doesn't want to go anymore, and that he didn't think it helped. It undeniably has helped, we're in a very different place than we were.
I have not been completely trusting of H and have asked him a few times if he was still in touch with OW (lives far away). He says absolutely not (just like he said all the time while the A was active).
OW was completely absent on FB after the A came to light, until earlier this summer, when she started on a physical self-improvement journey, retired (I think) and started a small home-based business. When I had bouts of suspicion, I checked her page just to see if H brought up things she posted about at the same time (news events and stories), or if there were other indicators.
I just saw a reply to someone where she mentioned 'her fiance' and talked about his pets. The number of pets fits with what H considers his pets that would stay if I left. Not many single men that age fits that description - and 8 months after H supposedly broke it off?
There's no mention or sign of a man in any other of her posts, to where she hired someone to mow her grass because her mower was broken. She only does activities by herself. It would indicate a long-distance F.
H gave me a ring before he was D from his ex. I didn't like it and didn't wear it until later. I could see him do it again. H has commented on how similar the two situations were, but he insists that he did not cheat on the Ex with me. I am not sure what to think, but I know that his Ex cheated on him before I met H with a man who left his wife for her and thought they were going to be together when H and Ex split, so if anything, they were both cheating on each other.
Now what to do.
Recently, he started acting out when I tried to schedule MC. I told him he could schedule, I didn't need his anger over something like that. He said he doesn't want to go anymore, and that he didn't think it helped. It undeniably has helped, we're in a very different place than we were.
I have not been completely trusting of H and have asked him a few times if he was still in touch with OW (lives far away). He says absolutely not (just like he said all the time while the A was active).
OW was completely absent on FB after the A came to light, until earlier this summer, when she started on a physical self-improvement journey, retired (I think) and started a small home-based business. When I had bouts of suspicion, I checked her page just to see if H brought up things she posted about at the same time (news events and stories), or if there were other indicators.
I just saw a reply to someone where she mentioned 'her fiance' and talked about his pets. The number of pets fits with what H considers his pets that would stay if I left. Not many single men that age fits that description - and 8 months after H supposedly broke it off?
There's no mention or sign of a man in any other of her posts, to where she hired someone to mow her grass because her mower was broken. She only does activities by herself. It would indicate a long-distance F.
H gave me a ring before he was D from his ex. I didn't like it and didn't wear it until later. I could see him do it again. H has commented on how similar the two situations were, but he insists that he did not cheat on the Ex with me. I am not sure what to think, but I know that his Ex cheated on him before I met H with a man who left his wife for her and thought they were going to be together when H and Ex split, so if anything, they were both cheating on each other.
Now what to do.