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#2041387 07/20/10 01:15 PM
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Greetings all.

I am on my way to this forum very shortly.
I hav a question for those who have experienced this:

What can I expect when stbxw knows I'm with someone else and when she finally sees us together? This is coming from W never thinking I would be with anyone else.

The W whom I'm "dating", GALing, has been D for 10 years and she has seen the stbxw start to really think about their decision.
Is there validity to this.

Thoughts and experiences welcome.
Thanks, gr8

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Hi Gr8!

I am guessing she won't be very happy seeing that you moved on. People get territorial, even when they are the one who didn't want to work on things.

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Hey Soleil nice to hear from you. It's been awhile since we talked.

I am expecting some sort of anger/jealousy thing.

My sister, who has beenD for many years, said to me that when she first saw her kids with her EX and OW that it was very difficult for her.

I guess in time my stbxw will learn how to cope, just like all of us here learned to do. smile


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FWIW my WAW is probably the opposite. I really don't have a GF but she may have seen a lady in my truck one time or another.

In my perception she would probably be glad to see that as it helps justify her secret affair while we were still married. Even after the divorce she tried to hide it but I found out almost by accident when her internet email stopped working.

Im also sure that somewhere along the line one of her many divorced (affair enabling) girlfriends from her work have already seen me on one or two online dating sites and reported it back to her so she can justify her cheating on me. I can just see it now. "See, it's good you cheated on him and left that zero! Now go find yourself a hero!". It's so laughable it's almost funny.


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honestly, who cares? if she wanted this D then you are free to live your life as you please and she may/may not feel anything about it.


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Quote:
honestly, who cares? if she wanted this D then you are free to live your life as you please and she may/may not feel anything about it.


Percisely.

I don't care but was curious about what has happen to others.


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Originally Posted By: gr8 day 2B alive
Hey Soleil nice to hear from you. It's been awhile since we talked.

I am expecting some sort of anger/jealousy thing.


Yep. That is exactly what will happen, I bet!

And it's niec seeing you too (on the Other Side, but still, so nice seeing old faces, well you know... old screennames). smile

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OK, W knows I have been out with OW.

We set up an appointment to meet with mediator.

Our little D5 is starting school in two weeks. Was thinking this morning if whant I want out of life.

I know I want someone to share in the growth of my children among other things to connect with someone physically and emotionally.

I'm having a hard time opening up to OW because I need to protect my kids. Altough I am completely honest with them they sense I'm not totally there for them. Even my women friends said the same thing.

Although I know what I want am not sure if W could give it to me or if she would even consider trying.

I am at the point where I feel I need to go all in an talk to W about my needs.

Talk me off if this ledge.


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