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Old post...
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2738650&page=1

Having to start a new thread before I'm asked to. Hope everyone has a bless day.

Psalm 91:1New American Standard Bible (NASB)

Security of the One Who Trusts in the Lord.

He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High
Will abide in the shadow of the Almighty.


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It's tough I know. One foot in front of the other.


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Andrew, thanks for the poem...that has always been nice to read for me, although it is also the one that the ex-con OM that my W has this fantasy, Utopian relationship with used in his personal testimony on how he survived prison. While I appreciate the message and I do believe that He is with me daily thru all of this, I can't get out of my head that this OM uses God in his testimony, yet sees no problem in tearing a family apart. What a POS.

Now that I got that out of my system, I am going to finish up here at my office and go an enjoy the weekend. I hope everyone does as well.

God is good all the time...


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SBJ,

The audacity iof your OM never ceases to amaze me. And interesting counseling session--but as you indicated, not your circus.

That feeling of desperately wanting something and not being able to get it? Yeah, I know.

Glad you are surrounding yourself with loved ones for that dreadful anniversary.

You continue in my prayers.

Gordie


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JOURNALING:
This week is kind of tough. The W and kids are all out of town with the FIL/Step-MIL and many other extended family members. This is the first time in 20 years that I am not with them all on this vaca.

Had a great time last weekend...bourbon and cigars with several of my friends by the pool Friday night into the wee hours of Saturday morning. Then I got to play an awesome golf course in Houston on Sunday with my brothers and my oldest son.

While GAL definitely helps...sometimes it is exhausting. HAHA!

I hope and pray you are all at peace!


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Not being an intact family stinks. Bleh.

Glad you got Dina good golf in.

Any new activities or projects planned for this week?


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Gordie...just trying to keep myself busy.

The must do's include:
1 Yard work
2 Pool work
3 House work
4 Exercise
5 Washing and waxing my Jeep
6 Washing and waxing my dog (haha)
7 Mass on Sunday

The extra's include:
1 Putting my boat motor back together (lower unit worked on)
2 Taking the top off the Jeep and cruising to the beach to see my kids for a bit, but also seeing some friends that are down
3 A buddies 50th birthday party Saturday with some friends
4 Maybe taking the boat out for a shake down of the motor Sunday afternoon with the kids and my brother

The candle on the cake:
Getting my kids back on Sunday afternoon...that is an awesome must do


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SBJ.....thanks for all the support and prayers, it is greatly appreciated.

I read your posts and I am always so taken by how you manage to not go to a more negative place, especially now that you made the decision to sign the D papers. That speaks about your character and who you truly are as a person.

I know it was SO EASY for me to spout out all these negative feelings I had toward H, and what he was doing to me, our M and to everyone involved. I never feel that tone coming from your posts. I need to work on that smile

I was reading a post from Sandi2 on another thread, and while I do not know how it feels to be in your shoes at all, and I don't know how I would handle things if I was, I really enjoyed what she said.....and the fact that it applies to all of us going through this, regardless if we are the H/W, LBS, WAW, WS.

Build up your self esteem and be around people who want to be with you.....and doing things you want to do. Every person who reports a healthy outcome, contributes most of it to getting a life that is not dependent on spouse/family. Secondly, it can be a real eye opener for your W. Not that it's going to redirect her decisions right away, but it can begin to plant a seed of doubt about her choices to leave the M.

You continue to show that you are someone who valued, and still does, your commitment that you made. I just hope that one day our spouse, or in your case STBXW, will come to her senses. But, if she doesn't, you know that you are such a different person now and know that you stayed true to who you are. And you never know, after all of this you may not want to reconcile because you have learned so much about yourself, and how strong of a person you are, that you are not willing to allow her back in your life....(just my 2 cents).

One day at a time......

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What's your exercise of choice?

Have you ever tried mid week mass?

Good to see you going out with friends.


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Now that you've signed the d papers, what happens next?


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2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
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