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#1852696 10/08/09 08:30 PM
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Honey,

I just wanted to say that it was not positive or solutions oriented for me to link Mark’s online activity to yours.

Really I think what it boils down to is I’ve been feeling more hurt and jealous lately since even though you indicated you would discontinue communication with your exgirlfriends on Facebook out of respect, and I actually believed you, that in less than a month, she’s back on there again. Which means one or both could not make the break. Then last night you raved about some 45 year old woman to Mark in our home. Making me feel less worthy.

So I let the salt pour in again into my open wounds and I shouldn’t have and I reacted poorly today. What I should have done is remind myself that I’m worth more than those choices, I do really deserve respect and that when we are really honestly respectful of one another our relationship is worth continuing to make better. Maybe it will get there.

I’m only communicating this in the hopes that it can make you and I understand each other better.


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Married: 17
Dated: 7

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I don't know who Mark is...but I think your communication was well crafted and it got your point across nicely.



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Thanks Jack,

I actually didn't email it but it was my talking points. Verbal is always better.


Let the sideshow begin....

Me 44
H 46
S 13
D 11
Married: 17
Dated: 7

Bomb 7/1//08 ILUBINILWY
2nd Bomb 4/3/09 I'm Leaving You
3rd Bomb 11/2009 - The 3 YR Affair is discovered
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Mark is my H's friend, single and 50 something.


Let the sideshow begin....

Me 44
H 46
S 13
D 11
Married: 17
Dated: 7

Bomb 7/1//08 ILUBINILWY
2nd Bomb 4/3/09 I'm Leaving You
3rd Bomb 11/2009 - The 3 YR Affair is discovered
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So...how did he react to that?

I have to admit I do not know much of your back story.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

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He actually ignored my comments and is not willing to discuss the OW.


Let the sideshow begin....

Me 44
H 46
S 13
D 11
Married: 17
Dated: 7

Bomb 7/1//08 ILUBINILWY
2nd Bomb 4/3/09 I'm Leaving You
3rd Bomb 11/2009 - The 3 YR Affair is discovered

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