I am new here. This is my very first post. Actually i posted a few minutes ago but I cannot see it so I am posting again. My H had an EA for 4 months. Luckily I found out before it turned to a PA. It took him a while to go NC but finally he was able to do it. He has not had any contact with her in 2 years. We are in R and we have our ups and downs, but for the most part we are doing fine. Glad to have found this place.
YOu should post to the piecing forum if you now working on your M and want to share, enourage or need support.
This forum is more on those whose spouses are actively in an affair.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
I'm curious about your sitch and would like to see more detail, if you're comfortable. Some questions come to my mind: Did you confront your H about the EA? You said it took him "a while" to go NC. What is "a while", and how did you handle it? How was the R between you and your H while he was in EA? How did it change? Are you in MC?
Yes, I did confront H almost 2 years ago. I also confronted her twice in person and twice on the phone. He stopped emailing with her after I confronted them but she continued calling blocking her number. I figured it out and told him to tell her never to call again. That's when he started calling her.I out a stop to it right away as well. This contact lasted a month. Well, thanks to her stupidity, she did some weird things soon after that and H broke it off. Had she not done anything, he would have probably continued the friendship. What would I have done? Glad I did not have to find out.
No we are not in MC or IC. H won't go and honestly I do not think we can afford it.
