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Glad to hear from you Shakes - Sorry about the bed- and Jefe's advice was excellent. You might be surprised- I think mattresses are treated with something that make them fairly resilient to this sort of thing. Hope D8 is ok.
Nice work on the H's list. It's good to know how they rationalize their decision. As much as it doesn't make sense from our perspective, it has to make some sense from theirs. Until we understand that, we'll be in denial and weaker to address it. As
Second Thread First one here http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2480640&page=1 So after around two weeks away W returned home last night. As I reported on previous thread I don't know where she went or w
Ahoy, I'm probably the worst person on these boards to be giving you advice at this exact moment, but I will anyway. I would just consider what's best for you and your daughter and leave STBX out of the equation as much as possible. Unfortunately co
I am a wreck today. Took the day off work. Not exactly sure what I'm going to do today, but I wasn't going to get s thing done at work. I'm going to try to nap throughout the day because I didn't sleep much last night. Productive goal might be to sta
rppfl, I know I was not going the extra mile of even the first mile to show my love. I was just supremely ignorant. And come to think of the PPD, I don't think she had it from D2, but we had an early term miscarriage in January of this year. I've l
Im trying to knock off the NG stuff. Its hard work though and my defence mechanisms having really been tested yet. she was much warmer toward me when she got in from work - even a tiny bit playful. I joked about a bit, fixed the printer she asked m
For an OM, if they're shallow, they get what they want (sex) and who cares about her problems. For her, I can't tell you one positive thing she will get other than temporary companionship and support from the guy while he tries to get into her pants.
Originally Posted By: zed This seems so much like my sitch. Why can't they just see that we do love them. Because they are depressed, that's why. You can't expect depressed people to see the world the same way you do. I was never diagnosed with
You are handling this well. Make sure you are the better person and handle this in a way that will make your family, your kids and you proud. She is still way deep in the fog of alien land. Continue to focus on you but listen to her when she spews.
BigMac - I just started following your thread, so I've not seen the beginning, but from what I've seen in the posts here, you are an inspiration. Originally Posted By: BigMacAnd is basically just being nice to me when she needs money. I hope this is
I've mentioned a few times on other peoples' threads how insightful I found the book Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch. In some ways I found it to be the perfect "work on you" companion to DR. The basic principle is that we need a cert
Thanks Zues126, Thanks for following, this whole process has been scary as hell. You know, I really did/do believe in "tell death do us part, in sickness and in health". But holy smokes, WAW's literally lose their minds. The destruction th
Quote:Sleep Number mattress is ruined. I took it off, doused it in enzymatic cleaners, and rinsed in the tub. Strong hydrogen peroxide based products (Like at Sally's Beauty possibly) are the best choice for protein and organic based stains like wha
More journaling. Text transcript from last night: 4:24pm her apology for her agitation: W: Sorry, I'm just ready for that stupid truck to be fixed so you can concentrate on our girls and the house. 5:43pm W:No Check (in the PO mailbox) 10:53pm (
Originally Posted By: Zues126First I want to pipe in about guys wanting their W to be a good mother. I think it's important, but it can cut both ways if guys feel like the kids are more important (or all important). FTR, I only spoke to how we wome
Originally Posted By: Zues126I have no advice on how to set a boundary. Personally I just let go and am trying to be the best man I can be for myself. I refer to her as my STBX for a reason, I don't see her as my W anymore. I am still going stand by
I have two job offers in a different state for the fall. Really amazing opportunities. It's in my home state, where I have family, friends, and support. My H and I plan to pursue a dissolution in January, and do shared parenting. I think this is the