Shining thanks for visiting. I like that game you play with the kuds. I will try that one. The latest thing s and I have been doing to calm down is a big yoga laugh. Deep breath, blow out hard, arms way up, deep belly laugh. He loves it and it calm
Thank you Claire. I just am disappointed that this is not what I wanted for the conversation. I wasn't ready. S I just wanted to make a clear boundary with OW. That clearly his attorney didn't communicate like he was supposed to. I WASnot prepared to
Ok, I expected that response. I'm learning in fits and starts and appreciate the tough love. I'm just grabbing at straws here. I go back and forth between self-loathing and suicidal thoughts to getting angry and petulant and wanting to try to chan
Wow, T. That was amazing. Absolutely amazing. I don't know what the vets will say but you've been aching to have that talk for months and when you finally got it you validated like a champ under circumstances that would have had most people on th
Honestly, T0? Given where you were when you first got here, it doesn't sound all that bad to me! You did some great validating, you didn't get into a huge argument... not only did he not call you mean names...he hugged you!! I'm sorry to hear abou
I had a huge backslide H took the boys tonight because my dad called him and asked him too. He took them to OW barn to spend time with the horses and her. He posted pics on fb so my friend called me to tell me. I was on my way home from work so I c
Hi all, I had a good trip with my old boss from the UK. It felt longer than a week and was refreshing to have a change of scene. The old boss didn’t offer specific advice, though he did offer support. He said that old work colleagues in London respe
Thank you for your response. In my head this all makes sense to me. I wish I knew what was wrong with me. Yesterday my wife emailed an 11-page letter discussing our marriage and my inability to let go of the hurt I feel when she yells at me. She say
Originally Posted By: T0324Thank you both. Wounded - you know I would be lost without you! While I am humbled by the sentiment, I am but a bit player in a very supportive community. My only hope is regardless of how your situation turns out....
So is it against DB and standing in general to lock H out of our bedroom? After 2 weeks of keeping it cool with OW he is in full swing once again. Today he left at 8:30pm saying he was going to get something to eat. 2.5 hours later he is still out.
Please pardon the temporary interruption of paranoia and insanity, I'm good now. He texted to say that it was just everything going on and he's trying to work on so many things and none of them are going the way he wants. Then said he's also having
Shining, I'm just catching up on your sitch and you get this. I'm sorry you have large pores. Can I interest you in some Biore strips????:) I'm glad the Kml shared her fault of heavy walking. I eat tacos wrong and bought groceries on sale. All kiddi
I understand the bad days. Maybe you should try and get out more with people your own age? Meet some new people, try some activities out of your comfort zone. I went on a solo vacation, it scared the crap out of me but I proved to myself that I coul
Claire, I would be anxious and worries, too, in your sitch. It's not easy to let to completely when your child is so young and you want control and to be able to protect her. I hear you. Man, it's hard!! But you're doing a good job on that 180.
Hi Matt, YOU are getting really, really tired!! Your mind is calling out for a little attention. When you buy those flowers for your D., get something for yourself. Take a break from home - maybe for an hour or two. Maybe you can alternate doing
Amazing, some of the stuff they come up with, Shining! Hang in there... AJM - yes, the blaming changes...H blamed me for most everything at BD last summer, it went to about 50/50 over the fall and winter, and last week he blamed himself for '90%' of
Bea, thank you for the kind words and support. I wonder if it is easier for the widows. I think that I had more energy and kept going when I had some hope for my M. I have very little of it left. I just feel like giving up. It is not only the flyin
Controlling is telling your wife that I won't stay here all day in the motel while you sleep, and ruin my expensive over seas holiday. It was no holiday, it was a trip to burry my nan and that gem was the day after! Supportive not, or threatening
I'm the one who woke up from all those insane dreams and couldn't get it back together for eight hours. No apology necessary. I appreciate you a lot, Claire. Following you makes things clearer for me. In the nicest way.
I'm so sorry you're having a rough night. Special needs on their own require so much energy, planning, attention, and consistency. Then add the current circumstances of MLC....oh, JG it has to be making this so much more difficult. Thanks for vi
Quote:His & my communication skills are pretty poor. Terrible, in fact. I think you underestimate yourself. I have read a number of your posts and I believe your communication skills are right up there with the best. None better.... (At least o
Thanks AJ, I have tried to have compassion for her and the pain she must be going through. It is the ever changing moods, the lashing out like she does over "things" while at the same time not caring about what should be more important like
I was typing my post while you posted yours. Hope you didnt hurt yourself there. LOL! Ayep.....not your circus... He will do a lot of strange things. Best not to try to figure it out or it will make your head hurt.