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Jump to new posts Re: Still confused by NewB3 @ Yesterday at 02:21 PM

Originally Posted By: MLPDawgy - What do I want? I want a happy marriage and a happy family. Well...I can't really have the happy marriage right now, BUT, I can get to a place where I am happy myself, and that's better for my kids. I can also
Midlife Crisis
BTW - although my ex's current wife - not an OW - is cute, younger, and possibly a bit more athletic than I was - I also know for a fact that she makes a lot less than me (one of my ex's bogus excuses for leaving was that I wasn't making enough money
For Newcomers
Hey Joe.... I'm not much of a daily life poster, although I can help you understand some of the dynamics playing out here... Her anger, well, it is gonna be around for a while. So you better get used to how YOU wanna deal with it. Most of the t
Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs/Jealousy
Jump to new posts Re: WAW having an A but she denies it by theoden @ Yesterday at 01:54 PM

Shodan, Stay strong. I guess the best thing you can do is make a contingency plan. Run it by the good folks here. She may come back and say nothing. Play it by ear. If she comes back and wants a separation/divorce, don't fight her on it. You c
For Newcomers
Jump to new posts Re: Still confused by MLP @ Yesterday at 01:38 PM

Dawgy - I was going to talk about your first post, but maybe this will help enlighten you on your most recent question, too. I think you need to work on yourself in these situations because you really can't control your spouse. You know how you s
For Newcomers
Jump to new posts Re: Taking it day by day part 2 by woundedfool @ Yesterday at 01:38 PM

Originally Posted By: T0324I don't want to tolerate the way he talks to me when he texts me. I have posted our conversations here lately. So maybe I should just say something along the lines of H we can have this discussion when you are in a better f
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Jump to new posts Re: H's MLC #3 by 2BHappy @ Yesterday at 01:37 PM

Matt, the detachement started out to save my sanity, and to give H the space he needed as he goes thru "this". It turned into me seeing changes I needed to make to be a better me. I know I will be OK with or without my H, I know Im a better
Surviving the Big D
Jump to new posts Re: Taking a break from Retirement by mishka422 @ Yesterday at 01:35 PM

Repurposing!
Sexual Issues
Jump to new posts Re: I'm left wanting by GoatGal @ Yesterday at 01:26 PM

booklver, I'm glad you found some additional support. And I think the ADs are a good idea. Use whatever works for you to get through this with the least amount of damage. As I've said, I got a script for Valium because I couldn't sleep and was t
For Newcomers
Jump to new posts Re: She did WAW, then I did EA, now I'm DBing...poorly by Joe1981 @ Yesterday at 01:24 PM

Well, yeah. She's taking them out of town next wknd (her bday). And she wants me gone this wknd, but doesn't want to let me take the kids.
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Jump to new posts Re: Stand and Deliver! by unbidden @ Yesterday at 01:24 PM

This ^^^^^ is so cool.
For Newcomers
Jump to new posts Re: Trying to detach by HeadUp @ Yesterday at 01:20 PM

So I am back to readying DB again. Haven't heard anything from W since Sunday. Getting ready for her to drop off my little ones at my house. Nervous about it because I want things to be ok and I know she is going to be upset or short or I dont' ev
For Newcomers
Jump to new posts Re: Just STFU by Cnfused @ Yesterday at 01:15 PM

W just texted me to have the talk tonight. Going to listen more and talk less. I have so many questions that need to be answered but not ready to push for answers. Have a appt with DB coach on Monday and hopeful I can get some good direction there.
For Newcomers
Jump to new posts Still confused by dawgy @ Yesterday at 01:15 PM

Hey all , ive been around for awhile and still have many questions . It seems as though Sandi's list is really to help the BS move on without spouse in the case that the WS leaves . I havent seen the draw in effects of detachment really much at all .
For Newcomers
Jump to new posts Re: She did WAW, then I did EA, now I'm DBing...poorly by unbidden @ Yesterday at 01:14 PM

Wow, if she needs a break from you she should just go somewhere herself.
For Newcomers
Jump to new posts Re: Wife walked aways (two months ago now) new thread by unbidden @ Yesterday at 01:12 PM

Nice work. Onwards and upwards
For Newcomers
Jump to new posts Re: Wife walked aways (two months ago now) new thread by BigMac @ Yesterday at 01:11 PM

Sandi2, I just re-read your post. This is good advice. Thank you for putting it out there. I am reading signals, but it is sooo soon for anything to happen. "If you want to live there to be close to the kids, make a life apart from her. The
Midlife Crisis
Jump to new posts Re: Stand and Deliver! by LoisB @ Yesterday at 01:10 PM

Well, Houston, we've had a miracle. M.I.R.A.C.L.E. HALLELUJAH!!!!!!!! D20 revealed to me this morning the extent of her drinking last semester and that she is alcoholic. She said she had a moment in NM when God revealed to her that she can't drink
Midlife Crisis
Jump to new posts Re: "Speak Softly": The Amoeba Whisperer! by GoatGal @ Yesterday at 01:06 PM

BrightFuture, Thanks for the compliment on my writing! I like to read a lot, write a lot, talk a lot.... (Really????) I surely write too much, but it's how I process. (Drives H nuts, one of my 180s is processing more quietly. He doesn't say a w
Midlife Crisis
Wishing, for being divorced, he is still so much a part of your daily life. I think that needs to change. Just my opinion. He is weaseling into your new life. Nip it. NIP IT IN THE BUD.
Sexual Issues
Jump to new posts Re: I'm left wanting by booklvr @ Yesterday at 01:01 PM

This has been a very interesting and educational discussion. I think the worst thing about this whole entire situation is what it has done to my self-esteem. I always feel like I'm in competition with the 'other women.' Currently, if we are watchin
For Newcomers
Jump to new posts Re: advice needed - please help by Rick1963 @ Yesterday at 12:57 PM

Hi Stacey very sorry you find yourself here. Have you read Sandi's 37 rules at the top of the newcomers thread? Start there. You will hear the word GAL a lot. It means to get a life. Focus on you. Exercise eat well and look happy when around him. Don
Midlife Crisis
Quote:Some part of me (the detective part I think) is still searching for "why". I keep thinking there is something about her that is better than me. More desirable and I have this nagging need to figure out why. But I will probably never k
For Newcomers
Jump to new posts Re: what do I do... by Starsky309 @ Yesterday at 12:45 PM

Why are you asking us now, after you already agreed? You should have said "Hmmm; I'm not sure how I feel about that anymore," or "I'm afraid it's not that simple anymore -- I'll have to think about that." And then come here for
Midlife Crisis
Jump to new posts Re: "Speak Softly": The Amoeba Whisperer! by GoatGal @ Yesterday at 12:39 PM

(I finally got wise and copied these suckers before posting, because I just lost this to the ozone for a full 30 minutes.) Yikes, Matt. Testosterone replacement therapy? I hope not! Only because it would indicate a sincere desire to conquer the
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