Raising the White Flag - DivorceBusting.com

W was with her S and S wound her up on personal love matters My W and I had during M, now W wants complete legal sep wants money. We have been Sep for almost 4 Y and during Sep we were working on R, however going through the roller coaster ride. I have made a lot of mistakes and screwed it up instead of keeping up with DBing, I slipped, anyhow we made up again however she is not sure and wants a few days.
I know she needs space and I know that if I pressure it will all blow up as it did. I am at a loss there is already tremendous financial pressure on me supporting the separated family as it is now and now if we go through dividing the assets I won�t have the resources to support all the payments W wants.
I suggested to her to read DB and see what she thought, I know I know my mistake, she might read the first chp, anyways now I am giving up and going to let her go and end the R. I rather lose everything I have and start a completely new without any money.
I need your help what do I do?

First thing do not blame yourself. You probably were not perfect but you were working hard on your R for 4 years, right?
Concerning finances I would have an open talk to her, tell her every detail and then decide what to do, sure she does not want to damage you.
If after 4 years she needs more space I would try to see her as little as possible for several months at least.

Originally Posted By: Art_Pl

Concerning finances I would have an open talk to her, tell her every detail and then decide what to do, sure she does not want to damage you.

I would be leary on this as my STBX 'tells' me she's not out "damage" (can't use her exact word) me and yet everything she's done in court says otherwise. I know everyone sitch is different, but just to let you know from my experience, addressing finances only fueled her fire more.

I mean, we started off with nothing and made a decent life for our family and now it is all gone.

Go to an attorney and find out what your options are. Your WW will threaten to put you in the poor house. That is not going to happen. Stop listening to her b*llshit, pony up some $$ and find out exactly how much she can expect to get. You will sleep a bit better knowing you aren't going to be crucified.