DR Chapter 3 - Goal Setting Rules - 05/24/03 06:23 PM
Goal Setting Rule #1 -
"Think about what you want, not what's missing"
Instead of concentrating on what you don't like about your marriage, take some time to concentrate on how you would like your marriage to be.
What do you want more of? What parts of being married fulfill you?
If you had the "ideal marriage", the "marriage of your dreams", what would be happening?
What would it look like? How would your life together be?
What would you be doing at this moment?
What would you be doing tomorrow?
What great things in life would you and your partner be sharing together?
What is your idea of the "perfect relationship"?
Goal-Setting Rule #2 -
"Think Action"
You know what you want, now what can YOU do to make these things happen?
How can you take your desires, and make them into something that you can make happen?
What actions can you take to make your goals become a reality?
What can you do to not just sit back and "hope" that things happen?
What can you do to not just be a "spectator" when it comes to achieving your goals, but to be an active participant in seeing them accomplished?
What actions are you going to take to win the "gold medal" in this event?!?
Goal Setting Rule #3 -
"Think Small"
Are your goals too "lofty"?!
Are you setting the bar so high that you may never be able to accomplish your goals?
How could you break these goals down into smaller steps?
How could you re-define your goals into something that you might be able to see results from in the next week or two?
How will you know tomorrow that you made some progress last week?
What things could happen for you today that would make you feel that you're better off than you were yesterday?
"Think about what you want, not what's missing"
Instead of concentrating on what you don't like about your marriage, take some time to concentrate on how you would like your marriage to be.
What do you want more of? What parts of being married fulfill you?
If you had the "ideal marriage", the "marriage of your dreams", what would be happening?
What would it look like? How would your life together be?
What would you be doing at this moment?
What would you be doing tomorrow?
What great things in life would you and your partner be sharing together?
What is your idea of the "perfect relationship"?
Goal-Setting Rule #2 -
"Think Action"
You know what you want, now what can YOU do to make these things happen?
How can you take your desires, and make them into something that you can make happen?
What actions can you take to make your goals become a reality?
What can you do to not just sit back and "hope" that things happen?
What can you do to not just be a "spectator" when it comes to achieving your goals, but to be an active participant in seeing them accomplished?
What actions are you going to take to win the "gold medal" in this event?!?
Goal Setting Rule #3 -
"Think Small"
Are your goals too "lofty"?!
Are you setting the bar so high that you may never be able to accomplish your goals?
How could you break these goals down into smaller steps?
How could you re-define your goals into something that you might be able to see results from in the next week or two?
How will you know tomorrow that you made some progress last week?
What things could happen for you today that would make you feel that you're better off than you were yesterday?