Ladies, I can't believe I missed your comments when I posted last night. I was in and out and on my way to meet a friend from church who had a Romanian language CD for me. Already I have learned:
"Excuse me, which way to the gymnastics stadium?"
"My, that was an amazing routine. Would you like to join me after practice for (insert favorite Romanian beverage here)."
"Why, yes, I do know Arnold Schwarzenegger and Kobe Bryant" (ok, lying is NOT a good way to start a lifetime relationship, I don't know Kobe and Arnie).
Hmmm? Ok, "Why, yes, I do know Bethie and yes, she IS amazingly flexible."
Ladies, you get neither $10 or 15K with this I love you" stuff. Your demand has to start with, "I can't stand you." then you get the money!
C2, I can't stop laughing over this. You're too funny!!! Aren't you glad your sentence is up??
Look who is the funny one? Yes, time served! Reminds me of the words the warden said as I left the Big House: "C2H, I hope you learned your lesson, go out those gates and don't come back again!" To which I replied, "yes, sir, believe me I am rehabilitated and I ain't coming back!"
The thought that always comes first and foremost to my mind when a spouse who supposedly now has "everything that they've ever dreamed of," is where is the hostility and resentment coming from? More importantly why?
dissatisfaction from within, right? It is not logical. Combination of upbringing and innate personality traits and sometimes chemical imbalances.
Afterall, you didn't leave her she left you. So what is it that drives this anger? Most likely she is still trying to convince herself that she had no choice.
In my Xs case, some sort of martyr's mentality, the same mentality caused temporarily severed relationships with friends and family.
It worked before, except now you are no longer taking the blame or falling apart. Plus this perfect little world that she had imagined probably didn't included you stealing some of her thunder because of the relationships that you are nurturing with your children.
She violated her vows to God, vows which her children understand. Her kids see through her justification for leaving me and it convicts her.
Her wonderful new house with all the bells and whistles has a catch. It comes with at a very high cost. Banks are funny about wanting to be paid every month. Oh and that love of her life that she now lives with probably looks somewhat different when you're living in the real world of kids, laundry, housekeeping and figuring out whose turn it is to take out the garbage. All of the things you never consider when you're still sneaking around and livin' on LOVEEEEEEEEEE.
So true except financially, they are not struggling. I support my kids, X gets paid very, very well as a legal secretary for a top level law firm (very well). Mr. X is second in charge of operations for their IT department, and has a side IT consulting business for tax purposes. She thinks she has it all. X always has and is still piling more on plate than she can handle. She lives for being stressed out and has continued that pattern even now and this is sad.
"Some things never change."
Oh, man, I love my new life, gotta go take my son to summer school and see my daughter
