Moving yet to another board..... - 08/13/02 04:15 AM
Here's the lastest link.... I started out posting at the Need Support board, moved on the Surving Divorce board and now to this board. Here's the link to more stories W&M Stories
In a nutshell: H left March 12 (6 months today ) He didn't know why, except he wasn't happy. I filed for divorce on June 12 after he told me very matter of factly that it was over and he wasn't coming home, ever. I meet a guy on June 15, a great guy, which was every thing I was looking for. On July 23, H tells me he wants to come home. I told him I'd think about it. He goes off to FL to play ball and I think, debate, cry, talk, read, think some more. The "other guy" broke it off the night H told me he wanted to come home. He counseled me to give H a try, that I'd never know if he had changed if I didn't give him a chance. The "other guy" and I struck up our "friendship" again after about 3 days of not talking. On Wednesday July 31, I made a decision to tell H it was over, I didn't think we should be married anymore. That I was different, stronger, mature, that I had more confidence than ever, all of which is true. I told him all of this on Friday Aug 2. He wouldn't take NO for an answer. He said all the right things, did all the right things, promised all the right things. He turned words back on me that I had said to him in March. I began to soften, but I felt good. I had told him everything I wanted to. We've spent everything night and weekend together since Aug 2. Its been good. He is trying very hard to be the man I want. (And "other guy" is out of the picture.)
We've still got issues and I've still got issues. I'm so afraid this will all happen again, especially since he doesn't know why he left. He says he was selfish, stubborn, stupid. Those aren't answers, they are adjectives. We are going to counseling Wednesday. Hopefully after some digging, he'll come up with an answer. I honestly don't think there was anyone else, but there had to be some reason. I mean, even his friends say "there has to be a reason a man would leave his wife and child." I'm attractive, I'm not over weight, our DD is 5 (pretty high strung, but takes after him). He's only 33, so I'm not sure it was a MLC, and there wasn't any signs if it is/was.
Before he left in March, I gave him is way more often than not. But not anymore, I'm stronger and my plan is to make ME happy. If I'm happy, then everyone else will be happy. I promised myself and someone else, that I'd be strong enough to stand up for myself and tell him that I'm not happy and leave. I plan on keeping my promises, I just hope he does too.
W&M
In a nutshell: H left March 12 (6 months today ) He didn't know why, except he wasn't happy. I filed for divorce on June 12 after he told me very matter of factly that it was over and he wasn't coming home, ever. I meet a guy on June 15, a great guy, which was every thing I was looking for. On July 23, H tells me he wants to come home. I told him I'd think about it. He goes off to FL to play ball and I think, debate, cry, talk, read, think some more. The "other guy" broke it off the night H told me he wanted to come home. He counseled me to give H a try, that I'd never know if he had changed if I didn't give him a chance. The "other guy" and I struck up our "friendship" again after about 3 days of not talking. On Wednesday July 31, I made a decision to tell H it was over, I didn't think we should be married anymore. That I was different, stronger, mature, that I had more confidence than ever, all of which is true. I told him all of this on Friday Aug 2. He wouldn't take NO for an answer. He said all the right things, did all the right things, promised all the right things. He turned words back on me that I had said to him in March. I began to soften, but I felt good. I had told him everything I wanted to. We've spent everything night and weekend together since Aug 2. Its been good. He is trying very hard to be the man I want. (And "other guy" is out of the picture.)
We've still got issues and I've still got issues. I'm so afraid this will all happen again, especially since he doesn't know why he left. He says he was selfish, stubborn, stupid. Those aren't answers, they are adjectives. We are going to counseling Wednesday. Hopefully after some digging, he'll come up with an answer. I honestly don't think there was anyone else, but there had to be some reason. I mean, even his friends say "there has to be a reason a man would leave his wife and child." I'm attractive, I'm not over weight, our DD is 5 (pretty high strung, but takes after him). He's only 33, so I'm not sure it was a MLC, and there wasn't any signs if it is/was.
Before he left in March, I gave him is way more often than not. But not anymore, I'm stronger and my plan is to make ME happy. If I'm happy, then everyone else will be happy. I promised myself and someone else, that I'd be strong enough to stand up for myself and tell him that I'm not happy and leave. I plan on keeping my promises, I just hope he does too.
W&M