VERY IMPORTANT. I need help ASAP!! - 03/18/16 01:03 PM
Okay, I know it's not time to start a new thread, but I really need help now and I can't wait. In case you don't know my stitch, I have been separated for quite some time and my H of 10 years is having a huge MLC and has been having an affair for the past almost 6 months. Just before Christmas we got together for 12 days. He went to one counseling appt with me and I'm pretty sure the counselor scared him away by making him think it would be impossible to get past this. He broke up with me right after that. I have since gotten a NEW counselor.
The ow came to see me right before Valentine's Day and asked me several things. Seemed very casual about it, but in hindsight I think one of her biggest concerns was whether or not H and I were getting divorced. She stopped talking to him for about 10 days after that, and guess what he filed for D on Feb. 23rd. Now they are back on track. I was served with D papers Monday.
I went and saw him after my son's accident and he talked to me but seemed very depressed (still). He wasn't happy that I talked to ow when she came to my apartment. Said some odd things about her that made me suspect that she stalks him (and probably me) on the Internet. He offered information about his health and tests that he had done. He wouldn't have done that a few months ago. He even gave me a hug before I left. Would have been nice if he had said Hey MB, keep an eye out for those D papers. They will be there soon. Or, something to that affect.
I went to a counseling appointment yesterday. Second one this week because I'm having a really hard time coping with the fact that he has actually filed. The clock starts counting down from the time he files and it only takes 60 days to get D in my state. Anyway, my counselor was talking about how confused he seems to be and has offered to try to help. She made an evening appointment so that he can go. The only problem is, HOW can I get him there? I really need help with this. He will not be as open to it as he was before (and he wasn't before!) since what that last idiot did when he went with me. I really want to save my marriage and I think she can help him. I honestly believe he is on the fence with the D....or that could be wishful thinking on my part, but he appears sad and unsure to me and I think she is pushing him. The appointment isn't until Wednesday, but he is off on Sunday and Monday so I know that ow will be here with him all weekend and I think I will have a better shot if I go there before he sees her than right after she leaves and he's happy. So, that means I need to do this TONIGHT. If anyone has ANY ideas on how I can accomplish getting him there short of knocking him out and dragging him there, I would love to hear them. I really feel like this could be my last chance before he is gone. I really need help with this.
The ow came to see me right before Valentine's Day and asked me several things. Seemed very casual about it, but in hindsight I think one of her biggest concerns was whether or not H and I were getting divorced. She stopped talking to him for about 10 days after that, and guess what he filed for D on Feb. 23rd. Now they are back on track. I was served with D papers Monday.
I went and saw him after my son's accident and he talked to me but seemed very depressed (still). He wasn't happy that I talked to ow when she came to my apartment. Said some odd things about her that made me suspect that she stalks him (and probably me) on the Internet. He offered information about his health and tests that he had done. He wouldn't have done that a few months ago. He even gave me a hug before I left. Would have been nice if he had said Hey MB, keep an eye out for those D papers. They will be there soon. Or, something to that affect.
I went to a counseling appointment yesterday. Second one this week because I'm having a really hard time coping with the fact that he has actually filed. The clock starts counting down from the time he files and it only takes 60 days to get D in my state. Anyway, my counselor was talking about how confused he seems to be and has offered to try to help. She made an evening appointment so that he can go. The only problem is, HOW can I get him there? I really need help with this. He will not be as open to it as he was before (and he wasn't before!) since what that last idiot did when he went with me. I really want to save my marriage and I think she can help him. I honestly believe he is on the fence with the D....or that could be wishful thinking on my part, but he appears sad and unsure to me and I think she is pushing him. The appointment isn't until Wednesday, but he is off on Sunday and Monday so I know that ow will be here with him all weekend and I think I will have a better shot if I go there before he sees her than right after she leaves and he's happy. So, that means I need to do this TONIGHT. If anyone has ANY ideas on how I can accomplish getting him there short of knocking him out and dragging him there, I would love to hear them. I really feel like this could be my last chance before he is gone. I really need help with this.