AnnaB, I like your middle of the tunnel analogy. Middle Earth, here I come, LOL
Buttercup, you made me laugh! That was really funny. I don't think you're going to have to go that far in before you start to see the light on the other side. LOL
I'm really sorry that you're hurting so much right now. And, to have the flu on top of it just stinks. I really hope you feel better soon. My H isn't being the nicest right now either. We don't have kids together, so we basically just NEVER see or talk to each other. I miss him all the time. It helps to go out with friends and stay busy. The thing that helped me the most was going out and talking to a friend that has a very UPBEAT, strong, and independent personality. If someone doesn't want to be with her, she couldn't care less because she'll just find someone who does. I sat there and listened to her talk about her XH and their divorce (it was recent). Then, instead of telling me how crappy my H is and that I'm "better off without him."like everyone else would say to me, she didn't talk about him at all....she just told me how great I[b][/b] am and how someone out there would really appreciate me. It just felt like instead of focusing on him, she built me up. I felt SO much better after our talk . That awesome feeling eventually wore off, but I haven't ever felt as bad since our talk as I did before it. This lady is NOT a close friend of mine at all. All of my close friends that I talk to didnt' ever make me feel better because all they did was criticize H and tell me how much better off I am now. I can assure you that I do NOT feel better. So, their talks never worked. If you could find the RIGHT person to talk to like I did, it will help you some.
Take care Buttercup. It hurts like heck, but you WILL get through this.