HOPELESS & CONFUSED - 01/13/16 04:35 PM
I am currently going through a separation with my Husband of 7 years.
We have 2 children together and my world has been turned upside down since he told me he wants a divorce.
I see him daily and we talk and are getting along.
He has told me however that he has shut the door on any hope that him and I will reconcile and his focus right now is the kids and his happiness and to be a friend to me.
He says he plans on moving out eventually.
In the meantime he still sleeps at home most nights as I work nights.
He also stays overnight if I'm out or if it's convenient for him.
We are helping eachother financially at this time.
I'm confused because his actions are conflicting to what he says he wants.
The other day he surprised me with headphones for my workouts, he makes dinner, and is overall still concerned about my well being.
Yesterday he reached out when I was in bed and get me a hug.
I have been applying the last resort techniques but today I was feeling so terrible and decided to check in with him about where he's at.
He told me nothing has changed for him and that he didn't want to talk about it anymore.
I'm devastated and feel crushed..... what do I do now?
I feel all that hard work I put in to being strong and moving on with my life has been for nothing.
It has only been 3 weeks since separation.
Am I expecting results too quickly?
Is there still hope?
Pleeeease help.
I want so desperately to keep our family together... what steps do I take next???
We have 2 children together and my world has been turned upside down since he told me he wants a divorce.
I see him daily and we talk and are getting along.
He has told me however that he has shut the door on any hope that him and I will reconcile and his focus right now is the kids and his happiness and to be a friend to me.
He says he plans on moving out eventually.
In the meantime he still sleeps at home most nights as I work nights.
He also stays overnight if I'm out or if it's convenient for him.
We are helping eachother financially at this time.
I'm confused because his actions are conflicting to what he says he wants.
The other day he surprised me with headphones for my workouts, he makes dinner, and is overall still concerned about my well being.
Yesterday he reached out when I was in bed and get me a hug.
I have been applying the last resort techniques but today I was feeling so terrible and decided to check in with him about where he's at.
He told me nothing has changed for him and that he didn't want to talk about it anymore.
I'm devastated and feel crushed..... what do I do now?
I feel all that hard work I put in to being strong and moving on with my life has been for nothing.
It has only been 3 weeks since separation.
Am I expecting results too quickly?
Is there still hope?
Pleeeease help.
I want so desperately to keep our family together... what steps do I take next???