So I was right that had it only been S13 and I at home last night, H would have accepted the dinner invitation.
He eventually turned up to pick up his drill and the bits - well sort of. He said that he either "need you to do me a favour or to play nice". He then proceeds to tell me that the work he needs the tools for is at OW's place, and could I drop them off to him at work Thursday night as he's done a shift change and is on late shift. If I can't or won't, then she's picking him up after work Friday and they'd have to come round the house to collect the tools (hence the "play nice"). Told him Friday doesn't work for me as no one was going to be home and he no longer has the key (and, unsaid, I don't want her anywhere near my house
), so I would drop the boxes off Thursday evening.
So much for a short visit with S13. He was there until S13 went to bed and for another hour or more afterwards. He was going through the list of his stuff he's going to take and asked me if there was anything he'd forgotten to add. We came up with a few other items that are his. He now says he'll pack up his stuff on Sunday - we'll see if that actually happens.
Shortly after S13 had gone to bed, H went outside for a smoke and asked me to join him. What followed was an interesting convo - if you can call it that as he did majority of the talking, I just listened and validated where appropriate. And before any 2x4s come - I'm not ready to believe a single word that comes out of his mouth. He tells me that he can't see a future with OW, that he's just out doing his own thing most of the time, that he never stopped caring for me or loving me. He says that I must know that he's not coming back and that I know why (gesturing towards the house where my dad is). He tells me that we've been through so much, both good and bad, and that he doesn't want to forget or lose that. He mentioned messing up and making mistakes but that he can't go back and change that. And when he'd finished talking he reached out and hugged me - not a quick friends only type hug either. Of course by this time I'd blown it and was bawling my eyes out
. He then decided it was time to leave and off he went.
Like I said, I'm not ready to believe anything that comes out of his mouth yet, but it's the first time in months that he's opened up to me like that, and definitely the first time he's mentioned not seeing a future with OW. I won't believe that last bit until first he removes her picture from his FB profile and second he unfriends her on FB - especially as he'd only a short while before said he's spending most of the weekend at her place. I've suspected for a while that he's not happy, so maybe he's now starting to realize what he's walked away from.