What to do =/ - 06/05/13 03:35 AM
So, I hate to spill the beans but I am quite desperate at this point.
My wife and I had been doing quite well since January, which was our first run in with "trial separations". She had come to terms where our lives together just weren't working out. I had moved out and started living with my sister and friend. It didn't go very well because I was so attached and trying to mend things when all she wanted was for me to leave her alone. I didn't realize that.
Every day I was texting her and calling her trying to fix things that at the time were completely out of my control. (I didn't realize this at the time (i think!?))..
So anyhow, round two started about a month ago. I started to realize that she wasn't wearing her wedding rings, sex started to die off, and our lives together were heading down hill. I could tell that once again she was rather unhappy. I suggested we continue to go to therapy; however, at the time she wasn't working so she thought the expense at the time was not something that we could afford.
Moving forward to last week when things fell apart....
Michelle went away for five days and didn't so much as call or ask how I was doing..
She texted me a couple times to inform me that she was hungover and not feeling well, nothing of substance..
When she arrived home I asked her why that was and one thing lead to another and a fight blew out of control. I left for the night to stay with a friend.
When I came home Michelle insisted that she was going to move out and stay with a friend because she was so unhappy with our marriage. She said that for quite some time she has not been happy, which is around the time when she started her new job.
Michelle has some unsolved issues with a bi polar disorder that she not yet found help for and i do believe that this is the root of the problem.
I don't understand how my wife has decided to potential end our M and call it quits after a bumpy month.
So confused...
She was slating to move in with a friend however the place they were going to rent fell through.
WE have been at each others throat for over a week now, and in an attempt to calm things down I have moved out so we are not even in the same living space. I knew that if we were to both live together right now, I would push her so far as to end this.
We are currently going to therapy and Michelle is almost out the door and ready to call it quits.
Don't know what to do and don't know how to handle this. I feel like I am the one trying to save the M and she isn't the least bit concerned!
Please help! I have a meeting with one of the advisers on Thursday but I need something to keep me sane!!
PLEASE HELP ME I DON'T WANT TO LOOSE MY WIFE!!
My wife and I had been doing quite well since January, which was our first run in with "trial separations". She had come to terms where our lives together just weren't working out. I had moved out and started living with my sister and friend. It didn't go very well because I was so attached and trying to mend things when all she wanted was for me to leave her alone. I didn't realize that.
Every day I was texting her and calling her trying to fix things that at the time were completely out of my control. (I didn't realize this at the time (i think!?))..
So anyhow, round two started about a month ago. I started to realize that she wasn't wearing her wedding rings, sex started to die off, and our lives together were heading down hill. I could tell that once again she was rather unhappy. I suggested we continue to go to therapy; however, at the time she wasn't working so she thought the expense at the time was not something that we could afford.
Moving forward to last week when things fell apart....
Michelle went away for five days and didn't so much as call or ask how I was doing..
She texted me a couple times to inform me that she was hungover and not feeling well, nothing of substance..
When she arrived home I asked her why that was and one thing lead to another and a fight blew out of control. I left for the night to stay with a friend.
When I came home Michelle insisted that she was going to move out and stay with a friend because she was so unhappy with our marriage. She said that for quite some time she has not been happy, which is around the time when she started her new job.
Michelle has some unsolved issues with a bi polar disorder that she not yet found help for and i do believe that this is the root of the problem.
I don't understand how my wife has decided to potential end our M and call it quits after a bumpy month.
So confused...
She was slating to move in with a friend however the place they were going to rent fell through.
WE have been at each others throat for over a week now, and in an attempt to calm things down I have moved out so we are not even in the same living space. I knew that if we were to both live together right now, I would push her so far as to end this.
We are currently going to therapy and Michelle is almost out the door and ready to call it quits.
Don't know what to do and don't know how to handle this. I feel like I am the one trying to save the M and she isn't the least bit concerned!
Please help! I have a meeting with one of the advisers on Thursday but I need something to keep me sane!!
PLEASE HELP ME I DON'T WANT TO LOOSE MY WIFE!!