h been back home 1 and a half years but struggling - 10/22/09 01:56 AM
I haven't been on these boards for at least a year. But I'm hoping that maybe someone has some good advice.
My h had an affair for at least 2years. He moved out for a year and I filed for D because he was spending alot of money planning his new life with ow.H ended the A and move back home about a yr and a half ago.
Things were really good the first 8 mos. but after that all of the samee issues occured that caused problems in our marriage originally. He wont go for couseling either.Like his being a workaholic, not calling me to tell me where he is, and he listens to heavy metal music and Howard Stern who I dislike he is a womanizer, and is always at his co-dependent mother's house.
Another problem that has driven us apart is that I have gotten very spiritual after going thru the trauma of the affair but he is into alot of dark stuff and I find it difficult to ignore it. Im afraid it will lead him down the same path of betraying me and Im afaid to open my heart to him so we are stuck in which seems a loveless m.
It makes me very sad because I dont want to be D and I have a 15 year old son that it would effect too.
I know I had to GAL so I am taking a class and also taking tennis lessons but this doesnt seem to be changing the dynamics of our relationship.We dont do much together because we dont enjoy doing the same things.
If anyone has some good advice I would appreciate it.
My h had an affair for at least 2years. He moved out for a year and I filed for D because he was spending alot of money planning his new life with ow.H ended the A and move back home about a yr and a half ago.
Things were really good the first 8 mos. but after that all of the samee issues occured that caused problems in our marriage originally. He wont go for couseling either.Like his being a workaholic, not calling me to tell me where he is, and he listens to heavy metal music and Howard Stern who I dislike he is a womanizer, and is always at his co-dependent mother's house.
Another problem that has driven us apart is that I have gotten very spiritual after going thru the trauma of the affair but he is into alot of dark stuff and I find it difficult to ignore it. Im afraid it will lead him down the same path of betraying me and Im afaid to open my heart to him so we are stuck in which seems a loveless m.
It makes me very sad because I dont want to be D and I have a 15 year old son that it would effect too.
I know I had to GAL so I am taking a class and also taking tennis lessons but this doesnt seem to be changing the dynamics of our relationship.We dont do much together because we dont enjoy doing the same things.
If anyone has some good advice I would appreciate it.